On so after trying one locksmith I called another and got a key made. No remote door lock/unlock but it works. The guy was really nice and gave me a deal I wasn't angling for one but I said that if it had been a different weekend I wouldn't have been so worried but I had to be at medical appointment at 7 am on Monday

That at least is a relief!

Somehow I got through 5+ years not losing the only key I had for the Sonic (which wouldn't start without the electronic keyfob). Which is a fracking miracle, in retrospect!

I really should get Air Tags, or something like them. At least with my phone, I can just call it when the location has, um, become confused.

The key element is one thing I miss about my Teslas. For 7 years I never thought about a fob or key. It was all bluetooth from my phone. No starting the car with a button, no needing a fob. When I approached the car with my phone it came alive, unlocked, changed the seat to my settings and all I had to do was push the lever to drive and go. No turning it off. Just walked away and it locked. I had key cards (credit card size) that I could give to valet if needed. My new fancy EV car has a fob and a start button! It is a good thing it yells at me to turn it off because I would forget. Technology exists! I think the only reason they don't use it is because they charge a fortune for replacement fobs.

About to go running on a bright clear sunny morning.

One week from today I'll be picking Matilda up at the airport!

Also EM is back in town so she'll come over on Monday to help get Matilda's room in order.

We'll all go out for a celebratory dinner for Matilda's return and Emmett's new job.

I've been very happy with our hybrid C-Max car. It's such a sturdy little no fuss mule of a car. But I have been tempted by the electric little Fiat. The C-Max has an old fashioned key plus fob but I feel weird about not having a car key so I'm not keen to go Full Fob.

Matilda seems to be leaning towards going to USF for college, and I really don't want her to go to school two blocks from our house.

I felt incredibly constrained by her in the eight months after her HS graduation and her going to Japan. It wasn't really living with her - she was in the Garden Apartment with her friends 90% of the time and I had to make an appointment once a week just to watch TV. So we weren't making dinner together, weren't waking up and having coffee together etc.

Which is fine - she's of an age where she should be focused on her peers and also, I'd be very happy if she was doing this off at college. But she and her friends would just waltz into our floor all the time, so I had all of the loneliness but none of the privacy or freedom that normally comes with that.

After JZ' death, and my sister and my friend Josh, I'm keenly aware that I don't want to waste the relative health I have in my sixties, nor do I want to settle into a cozy decline. I want to grow and change and I want to explore relationships.

I'm turning 64 this summer and I don't want to lose another 2 to 4 years because Matilda is stuck and failing to launch. We're going to have to have some tricky conversations about boundaries and expectations if she goes to USF.

I can't fucking imagine wanting to go to college two blocks from my house and six blocks from my high school! Jesus, I couldn't wait to get away, reinvent myself and put thousands of miles between myself and my childhood.

Off to run and think about how to broach this with her without getting mad about it.

I feel weird about not having a car key so I'm not keen to go Full Fob.

Our 2024 Corolla hybrid is fob only, and it was weird at first, but I got used to it so quickly.

our hybrid C-Max car

What? We have the same model car? How did I miss this?

Mine is a 2018. For the most part I like it a lot. My two gripes are the wide turning radius, and the big key with remote controls in the bow.

What with Covid and retirement, I haven't put many miles on it. Coming up on 40k.

I wish I could have spread my wings a little wider.(Did I have wings? Not even sure...I come back to that a lot.) But San Francisco is light-years cooler than the Phoenix suburbs, too. M. has a lot of things the rest of us want to run away to get. Am finally convinced the thyroid pills are really working. Which is a physical relief, but if I look at it another way, I went from square, say, -9, to square one again. Fucking yay. Even if I moved eight spaces.

When I went to the Pasadena F2F, my rental car was a Nissan Altima. It had fob with a fold-away key. That fit in my pocket much more comfortably than my Ford key does.

my mother...kind of picked a lot of fights with me to get me to leave. Feels like I could put quotes around that, in a sense, because at first I stayed with dad and stepmonster Would not rec either of these situations, exactly.

I was also a “get as far away from the fam as possible” college kid but I am also envious of others I know who liked their parents enough to settle down nearby (like my cousins who both live within a mile of their parents). Totally fair to have a privacy convo though.