You are such a community bringer I think it will be nice to have a live community that you are not in charge of bringing the community- you can be a receiver a little bit.

Awww, sweetly said.

Structure and community can both be hard to build up

Very true. I was a little spoiled when I moved to SF to be accepted into a circle of friends (which is where I met Marti the Medical Student).

Then later I spent a good 15-20 years without having any close friends physically nearby (though I was married with children, so I wasn't alone).

But it's something I preach all the time - proximity matters.