Atherton: Half the men in this room wish you were on their arm, tonight. Inara: Only half. I must be losing my indefinable allure.

'Shindig'


Natter 78: I might need to watch some Buffy for inspiration

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Calli - Mar 14, 2025 2:14:58 pm PDT #6186 of 6196
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

Recovery~ma, Brenda!

Wrist~ma, Steph. And go AMA!

I found out today that the university that I work for is on the list of schools that did DEIA in ways the current administration doesn’t like and wants to punish. And I’m rather proud of that. If your organization isn’t on Trump’s shit list for crimes against mediocre white dudes, what are you even doing with your one precious life?


Steph L. - Mar 14, 2025 2:44:58 pm PDT #6187 of 6196
I look more rad than Lutheranism

Tim brought home peanut butter pie for Pi Day. He's such a keeper.


Steph L. - Mar 14, 2025 3:13:10 pm PDT #6188 of 6196
I look more rad than Lutheranism

Quick vent: my father is such a piece of shit. He called me to tell me about his cardiology follow-up today after last week’s cardioversion, and after he talked about that for 10 minutes, he actually asked how I was. I told him I have to get carpal tunnel surgery, and I managed to talk about it for maybe 2 minutes (I swear I am not exaggerating the time) and then he interrupted me with “Yeah, when they drew blood from my arm today, it left a bruise on the inside of my elbow.”

There was no conversational lead-in for that. I wasn't talking about me getting blood drawn. He just decided that we had talked about Not Him for too long, and we needed to get back to talking About Him.

My therapist has asked me why I don’t just loudly interrupt on my end and say “WE WERE TALKING ABOUT ME,” but honestly, the less information he has about me and my life, the better. It just still makes me sad that he doesn’t actually give a single shit about me except in terms of what I can do for him. I’m hoping at some point I can unlearn that reaction, and not give a shit on my end that he doesn’t give a shit on his end.

I guess I could go for the nuclear option and tell him he's an abusive piece of shit, but that would commit me to a whole protracted discussion/argument/guilt-trip that I don't want any part of. Keeping contact to a minimum seems to be what works best.

Fuck him. He gets no peanut butter pie.


Laura - Mar 14, 2025 3:20:55 pm PDT #6189 of 6196
Our wings are not tired.

No pie of any kind for him! I'm sorry he is such a shithead.


Steph L. - Mar 14, 2025 3:27:07 pm PDT #6190 of 6196
I look more rad than Lutheranism

And it's sad for him that he doesn't get to have a real relationship with either of his kids, because, frankly, we're awesome. He should be so fucking lucky.


Steph L. - Mar 14, 2025 3:30:12 pm PDT #6191 of 6196
I look more rad than Lutheranism

And instead of finishing my editing, I'm rapid-texting my brother to yell about Dad. I have invoked Kingpin (aka, the fictional character who, as a kid, killed his abusive dad with a hammer).

Just to be clear, I have no desire to actually kill my dad, with a hammer or otherwise. I just really appreciate the catharsis (as in ancient Greek theater) of fictional characters whose piece of shit fathers get what's coming to them.


-t - Mar 14, 2025 5:01:42 pm PDT #6192 of 6196
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

And it's sad for him that he doesn't get to have a real relationship with either of his kids, because, frankly, we're awesome. He should be so fucking lucky.

That's the truth. I'm sorry you are subjected to him and glad you have what sounds like a good therapist. And pie!


Steph L. - Mar 14, 2025 5:18:40 pm PDT #6193 of 6196
I look more rad than Lutheranism

The pie is so damn good.


JenP - Mar 14, 2025 5:20:59 pm PDT #6194 of 6196

We ate a piece of chocolate cream pie and a piece of apple pie while listening to Kate Bush's song Pi. So that was fun. And only half of each, so there's leftover pie!


dcp - Mar 14, 2025 6:00:37 pm PDT #6195 of 6196
The more I learn, the more I realize how little I know.

I over-indulged in pizza pie. Even so, there are leftovers, so there will be cold pizza pie for breakfast!