Can't drink, smoke, diddle my willy. Doesn't leave much to do other than watch you blokes stumble around playing Agatha Christie.

Spike ,'The Cautionary Tale of Numero Cinco'


Natter 76: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Foaminess  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Topic!Cindy - Oct 15, 2020 12:25:46 pm PDT #27703 of 30019
What is even happening?

Shir, I hope the job situation goes in the way that is best for you.

-t, I hope it works out better for you, than it seems right now.

Epic, I hope your dentist isn't a jerk. Mine is, and I decided to leave him before I bite him (as he launches into pro-Trump or anti-choice tirades when his fingers are in my mouth), then -- pandemic.

On a related note: what have we decided is the appropriate response when someone apologizes, but you're not gonna say "It's OK" because it's not, at least not yet?

I think maybe, "Thank you," is an acknowledgment without acceptance. I'm honestly not sure. I have trouble with this, too. My default setting is to say things are okay when they're not. It's a hard thing to grow out of with grace.


-t - Oct 15, 2020 12:26:45 pm PDT #27704 of 30019
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Sorry for the jerks, Epic.

what have we decided is the appropriate response when someone apologizes, but you're not gonna say "It's OK" because it's not, at least not yet?

I don't know if there is a universally correct response, but I congratulate you on not jus saying "It's OK" because that's what you say! Maybe "I appreciate the apology" or something along those lines?

Lunch helped. It is probably not that bad and if it turns out that this shifts my job satisfaction to the point where I need to find a different job, that is not necessarily so bad, either. and at least one thing that is bothering me is objectively stupid (changing the name of our group to Customer Service and I don't even know why that sticks in my craw but it sure does)

I don't think I've gotten an Amazon catalog but if it was in with the other junk mail I might not have noticed.


-t - Oct 15, 2020 12:27:26 pm PDT #27705 of 30019
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Ugh, Cindy, yeah that seems like a good way for a dentist to get bit.


Topic!Cindy - Oct 15, 2020 12:33:46 pm PDT #27706 of 30019
What is even happening?

He's got a real air of aggression about him, too. This male dentist is married to a female dentist, and they own the practice together. For years though, I didn't see either of them. I was treated by a younger female dentist, who was lovely. She's since left. I think she's opened up her own practice nearby, so she's probably who I'll call.


lisah - Oct 15, 2020 12:36:37 pm PDT #27707 of 30019
Punishingly Intricate

I better not get a flipping Amazon catalog! Ughhh


Topic!Cindy - Oct 15, 2020 12:38:25 pm PDT #27708 of 30019
What is even happening?

Because they're an evil empire, or because you're still waiting for your ballot, or why, lisah?

(I tried to @ your name. I'm not really all right anymore.)


EpicTangent - Oct 15, 2020 12:44:33 pm PDT #27709 of 30019
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty

I got the Amazon catalog yesterday but haven't had a chance to look at it yet.

Epic, I hope your dentist isn't a jerk. Mine is, and I decided to leave him before I bite him (as he launches into pro-Trump or anti-choice tirades when his fingers are in my mouth), then -- pandemic.

Oh, no, that would get me out the door SO FAST. I considered leaving, due to some problems when I needed a filling a couple years ago and the fact that my anticipatory stress is so high for this visit. But I've been going there around 20 years, so I have to assume that moving records and stuff would be a major nightmare. So I'm just hoping today will go better than I fear.

I don't know if there is a universally correct response, but I congratulate you on not jus saying "It's OK" because that's what you say!

I think I feel such, really almost pathological need for things to be truthful/accurate that I won't say it's okay if it's not. I think I landed on "Mmm-hm," this time.

Hope that Serving the Customers is better than you think or the impetus you need to find something better, -t.


Atropa - Oct 15, 2020 12:48:02 pm PDT #27710 of 30019
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.

On a related note: what have we decided is the appropriate response when someone apologizes, but you're not gonna say "It's OK" because it's not, at least not yet?

"I appreciate your apology" is what I'm teaching myself to say in response.


bennett - Oct 15, 2020 12:52:26 pm PDT #27711 of 30019

On a related note: what have we decided is the appropriate response when someone apologizes, but you're not gonna say "It's OK" because it's not, at least not yet?

What about "I'm sure I'll be fine. Eventually."


EpicTangent - Oct 15, 2020 12:59:51 pm PDT #27712 of 30019
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty

On a related note: what have we decided is the appropriate response when someone apologizes, but you're not gonna say "It's OK" because it's not, at least not yet?

"I appreciate your apology" is what I'm teaching myself to say in response.

Waaaay more mature than I was prepared to be right then!

What about "I'm sure I'll be fine. Eventually."

A smidge more passive-aggressive than I was aiming for, perhaps...