Apologies for all the venting, there's really no problem solving to be done at this point. She's determined to suffer through it because one person she knows who had the same surgery from the same doctor "wasn't taking any pain meds two days after the surgery." On further questioning, this friend didn't actually have the same surgery, she had a knee resurfacing - totally different procedure. And I asked mom "when she says no pain meds, does she just mean no narcotics? Because you haven't taken even one of those." Mom doesn't know, she just doesn't want to put pills in her body. Including the blood thinner to prevent strokes. She keeps "forgetting" to take that one in the pill planner...just leaves it in. When I point that out she starts listing all the negative side effects of said medication. Which I counter with "the doctor prescribed it to keep you from dying from a blood clot. Do you want to die from a blood clot? I don't want you to die from a blood clot." Today her response to that has been that she thinks her dad died from a heart attack, not a stroke. Uh, whatevers, that's all well and good, but the blood thinner wasn't prescribed because of family history, it was prescribed because you had surgery for breast cancer one year ago and then a major surgery this week so OMG JUST SHUT UP AND TAKE THE FUCKING MEDS ALREADY. Which is what I have managed to NOT shout multiple times. I feel like a teenager wanting to slam doors and flounce away after dropping lines like "well then, just don't take the meds and die already!" which I keep hearing in my head in spite of not meaning at all. Because I do love my mother...I just wish she weren't so much herself all the time, ya know?

{{{erin_obscure}}} Oh my! I remember my sister telling me she would rather go through labor again than go through knee surgery again. I hope her doctor can talk her into taking something. (I'd be tempted to put it in her food or drink)

I don't do drugs well and was on the 5th prescription before I got to a pain killer I could tolerate after bunion surgery. But I wanted to try them all!

Also, you have some seriously good karma coming your way!

Oh, erin, that sounds infuriating. Maddening.

Oh no Erin.

I think my head exploded just from reading that, erin.

Erin, that sounds unbelievably frustrating. So sorry and lots of virtual hugs.

Oh Erin. That sounds so ridiculously frustrating. I am sorry you're going through this.

Oh man, Erin. That would drive me up a wall even without the extra pandemic fun. Yikes.

Erin, dear lord, you deserve a medal and hazard pay.