Gud, are you sure you should be making dinner if you have a fever?

In my extended family there is a person long suspected of having the "wrong" father. My biggest concern is that this trend not hit me personally until people who would be broken-hearted over this have died.

Gud, are you sure you should be making dinner if you have a fever?

I was gonna say. Gud, have you been tested for COVID-19?

My dad started searching for family and wants to know more of what happened to his mom during WWII. My dad also doesn't speak to 3/4 of his family because of "bad memories". My dad has been asking on heritage sites for information from family, including the 3/4 he does not speak to. He doesn't see this as conflicting and is generally not good with processing information he doesn't want to acknowledge. While I too want to know what happened to my grandmother and family during WWII in Poland and Germany and Hungary (older generations did not speak of what happened there), I backed out of the search because this is a setup to madness.

And yeah, count me in the "data privacy concerns" camp too.

Gud, please take care of yourself.

I've done a DNA test, but not for any particular family mystery, although it may help with my one set of great-great-grandparents, who managed to have a kid and then die between censuses like assholes.

It's different here (3 active cases on the island), and we're probably going to keep having our small game night for a couple/few weeks before going virtual again (travel restrictions are easing, so we'll probably start importing cases from Oahu and then the mainland, and people are gonna be dumb on the 4th), but the lockdown has, I think, really done a number on my kid's social/linguistic development. I worry about his whole cohort, really, most of whom aren't going to be getting interaction outside of their immediate family during a lot of their sensitive period for language. We've started arranging playdates for him with some of our (10 or so) social bubble friends. He's always been such a social baby with everyone who's not us, so being stuck with just us for a quarter of his life...sigh...

That's a real concern, Db.

A lot of adoptions aren't so much 'throwing away' as 'being told their only option is to throw away' for teenage women of past eras. Not to mention various horrible scenarios that can result in orphaned babies.

I suspect it's a better idea to let some time pass until it's all interesting anecdotes rather than dreadful personal history.

I understand that if a close relative has done DNA testing, most of your info is already in whatever databases are collecting it. I have to admit, I'm curious about Dad's side. We know his grandparents came over from Finland, but one of their parents has some sort of mystery to his origin. And there's other stuff—half heard rumors from older relatives long since passed that could be resolved with a DNA test. But I'll wait and let a less privacy minded cousin or suchlike pull the trigger.

Gud, I hope you're feeling better this morning.

I just had a palmful of raspberries from the bushes in my side yard. I feel all kinds of proud about growing my own food, but my very few contributions towards their cultivation, i.e. not cutting them back and occasionally tying them up so that they don't impede the walkway is almost the sole accomplishment I can point to.

I did a DNA test with the hopes of finding out if my legal father is indeed my biological father. To be clear, my hope is that he is not; he's an awful person. The other father option is much better. Unfortunately since I don't have access to any DNA from my paternal side, all I could hope for was that a relative would pop up who was clearly related to one or the other father option. But then I got a flood of distant cousins, most of whom seemed to be maternal side, and it was too much for me, so I never followed up.

Gud, are you sure you should be making dinner if you have a fever?

Maybe let the kids make their own until you're over the fever/sure it's nothing more serious?

I'm vaguely interested in finding out things like ethnic origin and potential medical info based on my genetics, but I've never had any curiosity about my specific biological parents. I was dealt a royal flush in terms of Mom & Dad adopting me and having great extended families on both sides; looking further afield always felt like tempting fate.