One consideration might be how often do you expect to be in the town where your family plot it. Now that my folks are dead, I never go back to my hometown - there's very little family left there. So I would never visit the family plot.

The flip side of that is why I kind of insisted that we put my father in the (columbarium at the) fanciest, most local cemetery -- if I'm going anywhere, it's going to be there.

My mother knew I'm not a fan of visiting cemeteries (if I want to talk to her, I talk. Visiting family gravesites just makes me cry), so she paid for her cremation, but not any "resting place". We scattered some of her ashes (completely illegally, SSSSHHHH!) off the Ocean Beach Pier because she loved it. And the rest will, eventually, be in the backyard, with the cat's, under his favorite tree (which was her request).

That's nice, Epic.

I'm not big on visiting cemeteries, although DH is in a nice one that I wouldn't mind going to if I had more time when the gates are open. It's nearby in the grand scheme of things but far enough that I definitely have to plan to get over there and I pretty much don't manage that. I don't think I've ever been to the final resting place of any of my blood relations, except to bury another relation. Of course, I'm not sure where some of them are, and Grandpa was definitely scattered at his ranch that belongs to someone else now, so visiting would be awkward even if I wanted to.

Apparently Amazon won't accept and publish a product review under the title of "Worthless Piece of Crap."

Well, they're setting the bar higher these days, aren't they?

Timelies all!

Yay for successful surgery!

Today has been another awful day. Mr. S was being grumpy and hitting me and the nanny as we tried to get him to go with her to go to PEP.(He eventually went) Then I get a call during my lunch from the nanny that she couldn't get in the house(didn't have both keys) so I had to drive back home to let them in, then go back to work. Gary gets back late tonight.

I drove the work bus twice today (well, 3 times if you count round trips as separate drives) and noticed how while I get myself worked up with a little stress fretting about how difficult it is, when I'm actually doing it, I'm well in command of the situation, not overwhelmed, but definitely alert and on top of my game. I think I need to keep frosty while I'm doing it, but work on being cooler about the anticipatory phase.

My situation is similar to bennett's - my siblings and cousins and I are scattered all over, none of us live in the town where we grew up.

My dad actually did say, essentially, he would be dead so what he wanted dind't really matter.

ION our hours at work are being cut by 40 hours a month. So....I'm losing the equivalent of a week of pay a month. Next week I'm working, barely 32 hours. And my expenses went up. AND they reduced the hours of many stores - like my old store went from being open 10-8 Mon-Thru, 10- 9 on Fri & Sat and 12-6 on Sunday to 11-8 Mon - Fri, 10- 8 Sat and 1-6 on Sunday. Our hours didn't change. I'm sure the parent corp is looking at all the Macy's and JcPenney closings and how Kohls is doing and trying to do something.

Except cut pay to the executives. I mean , we can't have that.