I gave her everything... jewels, beautiful dresses -- with beautiful girls in them.

Spike ,'Sleeper'


Natter 76: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Foaminess  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


lisah - Dec 11, 2019 3:23:15 am PST #14522 of 30019
Punishingly Intricate

Even if you weren't doing your old job, or aren't again in the future, I bet your old boss wouldn't mind doing a 15 minute or half hour checkin/coffee with you, Sophia!

One thing about your linkedin profile, msbelle, does the job title you're using accurately reflect the kind of title the jobs you're looking at have? I wouldn't worry about what your current job is but one that you want to get.


askye - Dec 11, 2019 3:42:49 am PST #14523 of 30019
Thrive to spite them

Gud different people need different therapists and therapy. I found DBT therapy to be really helpful and for awhile I bounced around to different therapists before I found one that helped.

DBT therapy and the group therapy I did a few years ago were really helpful because they focused on concrete things and actions rather than just on my actual emotions. I often had a hard time explaining or even recognizing how I felt or why I reacted a certain way so learning specific skills from DBT and then how trauma effects us and how we react to it really helped me a lot. Something like that may help you as well


Laura - Dec 11, 2019 4:56:14 am PST #14524 of 30019
Our wings are not tired.

Theodosia, and others, covered my thoughts. We love you, Gud. We want this to be your safe place to vent. But the advice is generally when you see something say something, so we have to do so.

Went to court today with my son for the 5th or 6th time I think. Case dropped, dismissed, done. Finally. Hope to get some better sleep tonight.

Certification testing starts at 1PM today. An abundance of pass this stuff is really needed. 6 hours today, then another session either tomorrow or Friday, and then a third. It is pure torture. And the future of my business kinda depends on passing.


Jesse - Dec 11, 2019 4:58:39 am PST #14525 of 30019
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

That's a hell of a day, Laura! Hope the testing goes as well as court did.


Shir - Dec 11, 2019 5:06:42 am PST #14526 of 30019
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

Love and ~ma to you, Laura.

I'm giving myself a bit more sleep than usual with the winter that's finally here (though some of you may laugh at it and call it fall), but it's 5:00 pm here and I r-e-a-l-l-y want to nap. Instead I've got almost two hours of work ahead of me followed by an hour of studying, then grocery store and then a meeting to wrap things with my ex-landlady (and getting money that's needed back, yay!). And then, possibly, some sports because my migraines are terrible lately with the weather change and cardio training helps.

You may see now why I want this nap to happen.


Laura - Dec 11, 2019 5:42:03 am PST #14527 of 30019
Our wings are not tired.

I have to say I feel better about the public defender system. I didn't hire him a lawyer, because 27 and not my job, and the charge for the public defender was $50. One of his friends who also is a PD said he lucked out and got the best one of the bunch. Anyway, other than never really talking to her very much at all, she did the job and I was glad we went that route. Probably 90% of the people I saw over my too many visits accepted plea agreements of one kind or another but she told him he was better off asking to go to trial as she expected dismissal. And she was right.


bennett - Dec 11, 2019 6:34:59 am PST #14528 of 30019

Shir, sadly none of us in the US can really comment on the political situation in Israel because ours is just as horrible/discouraging/whatever. I do hope yours resolves itself satisfactorily.


meara - Dec 11, 2019 7:07:03 am PST #14529 of 30019

I'm busy watching a webex meeting that is presenting info that is totally relevant to me but makes absolutely zero sense. I can't tell if it's a bad presentation or I'm missing background or what, but geez, this woman is saying a lot of things that I'm like "huh?" Boo.

Also, hi everyone. I am grateful you exist and I know you.


Matt the Bruins fan - Dec 11, 2019 10:25:26 am PST #14530 of 30019
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand

Today's amusement: an online scammer spoofed a message from my boss to try and get me to buy "gifts for co-workers" on her behalf. So I applied for loan info with Rocket Mortgage using the scammer's cellphone number.


Laura - Dec 11, 2019 10:57:42 am PST #14531 of 30019
Our wings are not tired.

Brilliant!