The social worker seems good, if you click. I clicked with this most recent therapist, but not other therapists over the years, so their advice didn't work. The thing about random internet strangers is I don't feel guilty for thinking their advice is bad.
I only have a kid perspective, but I never wanted to do anything my mom wanted me to do! Ever. From a very young age. I was terrible to her, and really good for all the outside people. But that meant I felt safe being my terrible self in front of my mom, which Iam sure was unpleasant for her. But I think it meant I loved her more, not less, than the people I was well behaved around.
Sophia, logically I know that is the case here too. She is a stubborn as TCG and me combined, but emotionally it is exhausting to get screamed at all the time.
sj, we are going through a big screaming phase with Jane too. Screaming, hitting, and NO to everything. It is so exhausting.
Also, non-specific~ma to amyparker's brother! I hope everything's OK.
First of all, nonspecific-ma sent to Parker's brother.
Second, I am endlessly amused how often I post about something that hasn't happened and I'm worried about it, and then the same day the issue is resolved. Which is to say: the freelance manager is working on the contracts tonight and emailed me just a little bit ago to make sure I wanted to renew my contract for 2020. So. Big sigh of relief!
That's awesome Teppy!
Yeah, I don't remember the last time I slept for...15 hours?! So much for getting anything done today.
Also I am glad I'm not a parent right now, I guess? Because I wouldn't have the faintest idea what to do with a screaming hitting child. Or at least, no idea of what's actually good/helpful/appropriate!!
Teppy, that is such a relief.
Thanks, folks - Jim and I have a running joke with a friend that our families of origin have spent the last few years passing around a trophy for "Very Poor Behavior". I'm sure it's Sara's turn . . . .
(I am joking because I just finished crying. My brother is dealing with something terrible, and making very bad decisions in light of it - but it's the reactions of the rest of my immediate family that has me thinking "Yeah, we're going on a break". Put it this way: Connie's death is not the most awful thing I have been working through, the last month or so.)
I'm sorry, Amy. Much~ma for your brother and for you.
Funny ltc story to make up for all my bitching: we're at urgent care today and I hand TCG my phone to show him a news article, and ltc wants to know who it is in the picture accompanying the article. I told her "nobody important", and then she very loudly asks "Is it Tr*mp? I think it's Tr*mp!" Which got the attention of every single person in the waiting room.
Oh, sj, that's awful and hilarious all at once. How are you feeling?
