I had no idea it was Emmy time.
Not a great weekend. I made progress on the cabinet I'm making for my wife's business.
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It's not great. Some more staining and adjusting the hinges could make it better, but she says she'd rather have the cabinet as is instead of waiting for me to fix the flaws and stain the adjustable shelving. But the big screw up was that I thought she had decided an undivided cabinet would be fine, but I must have mis-remembered and she wanted it divided with differently keyed locks on each side. She's still going to use it, but I screwed things up like normal. Then I screwed up again when my son scraped his car against my daughter's car. I think I can fix it up with a paint pen, but like my wife pointed out if I had gone to the grocery store instead of him this wouldn't have happened. It's just, I really don't like going to the grocery store and he volunteered to go. Sometimes I'm just selfish. So lots of mistakes and the fact that I'm a terrible person combining to screw things up for the family. I wish I could be somebody else or just not be sometimes.
If your son scraped your daughter's car, it is not on you. Dear Gud. I wish you could appreciate yourself like we do.
Either you misremembered or she changed her mind without telling you.
Or did not communicate successfully.
A person so exacting.. or whose memory is that bad (or if I suspected mine was), I'd get complicated tasks in writing. I'm serious.
Then I screwed up again when my son scraped his car against my daughter's car. I think I can fix it up with a paint pen, but like my wife pointed out if I had gone to the grocery store instead of him this wouldn't have happened.
Gud, my jaw actually dropped at this part. This is not, in any way, your fault! There is something wrong with the person who looks for any tiny nonsensical reason to blame everything on you.
DH had to watch the Emmys for work, otherwise I would have turned them off. The production choices were cringeworthy beyond belief. Thomas Lennon, WTAF.
Gud your wife expects you to do almost everything around the house yourself and to never make a mistake. And if someone else makes a mistake it is your fault as well. And she expects you to do that when you are sick (remembering your past posts).
Her expectations are not rational or grounded in reality.
Emmys: the broadcast was often cringeworthy, but I was so so happy with most of the winners.
Gud, what everyone else has said. Definitely not your fault, and there is no reason why your kids shouldn't be helping with errands.
Well, she also took over taking of dishes when I started working on them since I had done a fair amount of carpet cleaning during the day. And she apologized for yelling at me over messing something up that it turned out I hadn't actually messed up. All of that was after I posted. I ordered up some touch-up paint pins so I can probably fix the car thing. I've been able to fix much bigger scraps in the past.
Still, wished I hadn't made so many mistakes though. It doesn't help that finances aren't going well right now. Just got a huge bill for some medical stuff for my son which is going to hurt. I, mean, we still have it a lot better than a lot of people and we own our house outright, but I feel like if I were earning more it would be a lot better. But between medical expenses and negative income from my wife's business it's a squeeze. I really hope the latter turns around, the financial aspect would be nice, but I really want to see her have that personal sense of success. I feel like I should probably do more about that too, but I'm not sure exactly what would actually help.
Gud: What everyone else said. Your son had the car accident, not you. And if you were working on something important, like a cabinet FOR YOUR WIFE'S BUSINESS, then your wife doesn't have a whole lot of room to complain when you delegate other chores and errands to other people so you can work on something that YOUR WIFE NEEDS FOR HER BUSINESS.
Suggestion: As long as your son caused the damage to your daughter's car, maybe he could try using the paint pen to fix it?
