The full-time job almost certainly would be higher stress, longer hours, and more bullshit. But it would be a big jump in pay and status. Manager-level position, including managing people, which I haven't before. Remote full-time for the moment, though they have plans to open an office here. Plus, benefits.

The contract job has more flexibility, but they pushed back strongly against my hourly rate, which husband thinks is a big red flag. They say if things go well it will likely turn into a full-time job, but no guarantees.

I need to talk to full-time job and find out where they are in their process, because I can't put off the contract people for long.

Oh, and full-time job is a start-up, though several years old, which means it may have that annoying Silicon Valley start-up culture.

That is so tricky! Is the contract job potentially more stable? I don't know how much you actually care about that, but you and your husband have been through the wringer from my perspective! And start-ups sound risky to me.

It sounds like a big change, but increased pay and benefits are pretty nice things.

Is the contract job potentially more stable?

Hard to say. It sounds like they have plenty of work, and I'd be the only person.

The person I spoke to with the full-time job yesterday did warn me that the culture is "debative", and it's hard to know if that means healthy debate or just people being assholes.

Holy crap, today's Ask Polly: [link]

The person I spoke to with the full-time job yesterday did warn me that the culture is "debative", and it's hard to know if that means healthy debate or just people being assholes.

Oh no, that does sound like assholes. Or at least just really aggressive.

Called and left a message with the in-house recruiter for the full-time job. So I guess we'll see.

Holy crap, today's Ask Polly

It is shocking how often that kind of question shows up in advice columns, but that is far above and beyond! (Except for the grandmother who kept giving the allergic kid peanut candy...)

Holy shitballs, those people are crazy. MUSHROOM POWDER!