Dear person demanding to know who owns this order and why there is such a problem with it: you do. And your mistake is the root of all these delays. Kthxbye
Mal: Then I call it a win. What's the problem? Inara: Should I start with the part where you're stranded in the middle of nowhere, or the part where you have no clothes?
'Trash'
Natter 75: More Than a Million Natters Served
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
-t - Apr 06, 2017 10:41:40 am PDT #9504 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
-t - Apr 06, 2017 10:44:45 am PDT #9505 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
That seems like a pretty good list to me, msbelle. Stressing yourself out about giving yourself "enough" self-care doesn't seem like a good thing.
-t - Apr 06, 2017 10:48:00 am PDT #9506 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
I have not been nearly as thoughtful about my self-care. And I want something indulgent right now, like a bag of chips or a free bagel or something.
Jesse - Apr 06, 2017 11:48:30 am PDT #9507 of 30002
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
I think the term "self care" is tricky, because your self has long-term and short-term needs, you know? So probably for me ACTUAL self-care is eating a salad, but a bag of chips feels like self-care. (I think that's where shopping comes in, right? Taking care of yourself includes living by a budget and whatever, but shopping feels so right!)
Steph L. - Apr 06, 2017 11:53:40 am PDT #9508 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
So probably for me ACTUAL self-care is eating a salad, but a bag of chips feels like self-care.
Taking care of yourself includes living by a budget and whatever, but shopping feels so right!
Yeah, I read something once that said something along those lines, like we always think self-care is ice cream and Netflix, but self-care is ALSO paying bills and going to the dentist and getting the tires rotated. I think the idea is that self-care should encompass both (1) time for ourselves, which can be indulgent, and (2) literally taking care of stuff that needs to happen to keep our lives trundling forward.
-t - Apr 06, 2017 11:54:45 am PDT #9509 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
Yeah, sure, what is self-care as an occasional thing can become self-destructive as a habit. Can't imagine that is a bright line most of the time.
-t - Apr 06, 2017 11:56:27 am PDT #9510 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
And I think it's also hard to distinguish between "things I gotta do for my own good" and "things expected of me by family or society or whatever that I am actually better off without" because they both feel like obligations.
-t - Apr 06, 2017 12:00:45 pm PDT #9511 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
See also: wants vs needs, our own and others'
Russia, Canada, Costco, and JCP are all conspiring to make me a giant ball of stress, which apparently makes me chatty!
ETA: and now the Caribbean is getting in on the fun. You are not supposed to increase my stress levels, tropical islands!
Toddson - Apr 06, 2017 12:06:52 pm PDT #9512 of 30002
Friends don't let friends read "Atlas Shrugged"
a car twenty years younger than the Jeep
So ... does this make you a car cougar?
Connie Neil - Apr 06, 2017 12:09:12 pm PDT #9513 of 30002
brillig
So ... does this make you a car cougar?
It only just became old enough to drink this year, and I haven't seen it trying to get cozy with the youngsters in the parking lot.