Gud, if a romantic partner treated one of your children the way your wife treats you, would you defend that partner as a good person, and your kid should just fo better, because they're "defective?"
You would not.
She's not good for you, she is not good for your kids. You're not misrepresenting her -- we have heard what she says and does and how fucking mean and selfish she is for over a decade.
She. Is. The. Problem.
Because. She. Abuses. You.
Constantly.
You all know my husband was in an abusive marriage. And I worked at 3 different domestic abuse shelters.
I am very comfortable saying, based on years of information from you, which you present pretty objectively, since she's got you trained to always take the blame for everything, that you are in an abusive relationship.
She is toxic AF, she is never going to treat you well, she does not want to change and you need to GTFO because she is killing you. If emotional abuse left physical wounds, she has broken every bone in your body twice, and told you to make her a fuckin' sandwich while you're still bleeding out.
She's got you convinced you deserve to feel shitty, and you don't. No one deserves this.
You don't deserve this.
She abused you. Constantly. For decades.
You just got out of the damned hospital. YOU SHOULD NOT BE GETTING HER BLOODY BREAKFAST.
I actually gasped when I read that you went to get her fucking breakfast. You are recovering from an infection severe enough that you needed to be in the hospital for IV antibiotics. She should be making you breakfast in bed. What the actual hell.
She is an abusive, narcissistic piece of shit. The best thing you could do is take the kids and leave. Or kick her out and change the locks.
So, in other news, my friend's sister posted on Facebook with a Browncoats hashtag, and I had forgotten she was one of those! Although my friend's daughter is named Zoe, so I shouldn't have. Anyway, I wonder if any of us ever crossed paths with her elsewhere online.
Gud, if I could, I'd stand up on your dining room table with a STRIKE sign. It's past time she recognizes how much she's expecting from you. And that you are breaking under the strain.
Ok, who has a suggestion for a strawberry dessert? Preferably gluten free but not necessarily. Last year I made a pavlova of sorts. Birthday girl requested strawberries. I'm having a hard time thinking of anything interesting beyond like strawberry shortcake
Gud, I hope you are reading and rereading the truths above. You deserve kindness and support. If any one of us was being treated the way you are you would call it abuse, because it is.
Strawberry ice cream sundaes.
Chocolate-dipped strawberries?
We had those for a recent birthday of a co-worker who's on the paleo diet, and they were awesome.
