Ugh. I'm so sorry, amyth. I hope the neuro has a workable explanation for you.
T/W: gun violence
Yesterday, one of the SO's former medic partners shot and killed his wife and then shot himself. SO is in disbelief, as is the rest of the first responder community. He was a legend and mentor to a lot of them. Right now no one has any idea about the motive, not even his son. I'm trying to support SO as best as I can, but I'm having a difficult time wrapping my head around this. SO is disgusted and disappointed and heartbroken, and every plausible explanation can't explain away what he did to his wife. SO is liable to be in the minority when the rest of the details come out, but the typical excuses from some camps have already started. The media has also released the names so the keyboard warriors are out in full force.
I understand there are policy and gun control discussions that will come from this, but I have to stay focused on SO and our friends that are impacted. Intellectually, I knew that dating a first responder would have unique challenges, but nothing has prepared me for some of what he's gone through. He says he's grateful that I'm not in the business, because I'm not second-guessing his actions, and it's a true escape once he leaves work, but that also means I don't truly understand how what happened is affecting him. I can only empathize, and I hope it's enough.
Sorry for the brain dump, and thanks for giving me an ear.