Mom and I are both doing OK. Having a huge family that gets along helps a lot in the way of emotional support, and we've both been getting consecutive nights of good sleep for the first time since mid-March. The visitation, funeral, and family meal afterwards all went well.

That's good to hear, Matt. Been thinking of y'all.

Shingles is terrible. If nachos help even a little bit, yay nachos!

I cam in to work a little early because I was ready to leave the house too early for my regular start time but not early enough to go to the gym first. I've been catching up on weird and/or new tasks that came up while I was out on my 9/80 day on Friday and am only now getting to my regular Monday morning work. Gonna be a long day.

OMG, when I ask do I do A or B why would anyone answer "yes"?

Guess I will just pick the one I like better.

Matt, I am glad to hear you are getting some sleep. You and your family seem to have such a great relationship so I am sure this is very hard, although it seemed to be that the viewing/calling hours/funeral seem to merge in to one big blur!

Most of what I've read concludes that, for weight loss, the important thing is to pay attention to what you're eating and how much of it, and so any diet that forces you to do that will be effective mostly regardless of the actual kinds of food the diet allows/

If anyone deserves nachos, it is someone with shingles!

It is definitely the act of paying attention that has caused weight loss, the controlled blood sugar that has made me want to stick with it, and the part where I am never hungry that makes it possible. Like seriously Keto solved my like long hanger problem. Like I can be a little hungry and not feel like a lion ready to take down a gazelle, or cry, or have a tantrum because I need to eat.

Having a huge family that gets along helps a lot in the way of emotional support, and we've both been getting consecutive nights of good sleep for the first time since mid-March.

I had a related experience when my father went into the nursing home -- it felt bad in some ways, but I (and my mother of course) had spent so much time worrying about him that it was a real relief on some level.

I had a related experience when my father went into the nursing home -- it felt bad in some ways, but I (and my mother of course) had spent so much time worrying about him that it was a real relief on some level.

Yes, when my mom passed I had it too. Sleeping through the night, not starting at every sound, making plans without worrying about leaving her alone. It's hard because you feel less stress, yet feel guilty for that little bit of relief.

Laura, are you keeping up with the Orange Theory?

Yes, I am! I am on a Mon-Wed-Fri schedule now because apparently I do much better with a rest day. On my rest day I do swim at least an hour. I do the lessons at noon. Still massively hard to do, but I am getting stronger.

That is good to hear, Matt. Sleep is so important to keep your immune system intact when you are grieving.

Yeah, I didn't realize quite how much worrying about my mom's bone cancer spreading and causing pain was taking a toll until she died.

My parents had the downstairs apartment, and I hadn't realized how attuned I was to hearing (and deciphering) noises from them, and after Dad died, from Mom. For the entire year after we'd moved her to assisted living, I still alerted at any sound, in the other room, or outside, until I was certain it wasn't from her, downstairs.

We're in a detached one-story now. And I still have that alert response until I find out what that noise was--any noise that's not immediately identifiable. Tree branch hitting the roof: Did she fall? Flowerpot blows over on the porch: Did she drop something?

Of course I was awake in the wee smalls for years after they'd left home, waiting to hear the boys' cars pulling into the driveway. Some learned behaviors are hard to unlearn. I keep working on it.

I still alerted at any sound, in the other room

same, but for mac having a mood shift. It's mostly gone now, but I still sleep much lighter.