Gud, I like the idea of giving her a choice. Might short-circuit her anger.
I like money better than people. People can so rarely be exchanged for goods and/or services!
Willow ,'Showtime'
Natter 75: More Than a Million Natters Served
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Scrappy - May 02, 2017 10:39:16 am PDT #10770 of 30002
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Steph L. - May 02, 2017 10:43:16 am PDT #10771 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
It doesn't sound like there's a very fair division of labor in your house, Gud. What chores does your wife do?
shrift - May 02, 2017 10:46:12 am PDT #10772 of 30002
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
What Scrappy and beth said.
I mean, you can't possibly get ahead with the amount of stuff that's on your plate, but you can triage it. If you can give your wife the choice on what gets done, then maybe you can manage her expectations better. It sounds like she's getting angry with you when she has expectations that she didn't communicate to you, like her getting mad that you took too long for lunch. I'm pretty sure you weren't taking a 3-hour martini lunch, dude.
-t - May 02, 2017 11:03:41 am PDT #10773 of 30002
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
30 minutes of time is a massive amount for me.
Right? People advocating anything go around saying things like "all it takes is an hour/30 min/15 min a day!" like anyone can do that. NO WE CAN'T
On a TIN chimney? Woodpecker, go home, you're drunk.
No, no, that's normal behaviour! Sometimes they are pecking looking for insects, but sometimes they are just making noise to let all the other woodpeckers know they are there and this is their territory, and for that purpose pecking on a metal chimney is very effective! Although it is loudest inside the house, it's pretty loud outside, too.
brenda m - May 02, 2017 12:45:48 pm PDT #10774 of 30002
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
Where does your wife work, Gud? Not actual company, but what is the set up? It seems odd to me that you are doing IT work at an office.
Zenkitty - May 02, 2017 12:48:23 pm PDT #10775 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Clever woodpecker then!
I hope no one minds if I make anxiety posts the next day or so. Oh look autocorrect knows "posttraumatic".
Dana - May 02, 2017 12:52:18 pm PDT #10776 of 30002
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
Boy, DFW is a shithole.
msbelle - May 02, 2017 12:56:25 pm PDT #10777 of 30002
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
To stave off anxiety. Today I :
Got 8 invoices off my desk
Picked up meds I was out of
Paid 3 important bills (no paper, so in addition to ones above)
Did reports due and 90% of ones due tomorrow
Made gym appt
Ate real food
Dana - May 02, 2017 1:06:23 pm PDT #10778 of 30002
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
Man talking loudly on Bluetooth with his mortgage company. Doesn't sound like an amicable conversation. I sympathize, but he also sounds like someone who'd try to sell you on a pyramid scheme.
Steph L. - May 02, 2017 1:07:31 pm PDT #10779 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
To stave off anxiety.
There's a post I saw on Tumblr that's a drawing of a person picking up and hugging this round squishy creature, and the idea is picturing your anxiety as something outside yourself that you can calm down when it gets all freaked out. I've tried it this week, and it actually helps. (I also tell it "I gotchu, baby girl," but that's optional.)