Ugh, my boss is pulling the nonsense of: Tells me ALWAYS change X to Y ---> later gives me feedback that says "Do not feel you must always change X to Y" ---> I comply and don't change every instance of X to Y ---> gives me feedback today that says "Please check earlier feedback and make sure you always change X to Y."

Augh. I replied and said Hey, here is a direct quote from an email from you on such-and-such date, saying "Do not feel you must always change X to Y", so can you please give me some guidance on this matter?

Shit like this makes me feel gaslighted, even when I have documented proof that I'm just doing WHAT I WAS TOLD TO DO.

I swear, 80% of what sucks about people's jobs is bosses.

You are so right, Dana.

And yet, I feel like I would be a terrible boss myself.

I just want to idly wealthy.

My boss now is his own worst enemy, but for me he is actually the best boss I've had since moving down here. He is mostly hands off and I am actually self managing fairly well. 5 years ago I could not self manage, but my life is much calmer now and in this job I have learned what needs doing. A few of the reasons that I am not looking to change jobs. Another year and a half and I get another week of vacation. Whoot

And yeah, they fired him. Total scapegoat situation where he warned and warned and warned them that something would go wrong, and they ignored him, and something went wrong, and his manager threw him under the bus to cover her own ass.

Oh no! I am so sorry.

In a sense, it's okay, because he was miserable, and he'll get unemployment, and we have my benefits and no financial worries. But personally, it stings.

Ugh, Dana, that blows. I mean, it's fantastic that you'll be okay in terms of your benefits and finance-wise, but what a shitty thing for his manager to do. I hope karma catches up to her soon.

Oh, ugh, Dana! Your poor husband. That is really shitty.

I swear, 80% of what sucks about people's jobs is bosses.

Yuuuuup.

One fairly awful thing about my employer is that they fight every single application for unemployment in the case of firing.