DH is talking to his brother now. He didn't want anyone to know! And he is arguing with him about getting an attorney vs using public defender. His mother and I had a big argument when he was 16 because he was so out of control. She was claiming she did the best she could and it was all in God's hands. I blew up at her and said God gave her the kid to take care of not to throw her hands up in middle school and give up. None of us thought it would end up this way. Just heartbroken.
Kaylee: You're nice, too. Mal: No, I'm not. I'm a mean old man.
'Serenity'
Natter 74: Ready or Not
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Laura - Sep 30, 2016 8:59:44 am PDT #28522 of 30003
Our wings are not tired.
Maria - Sep 30, 2016 9:55:40 am PDT #28523 of 30003
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
Ugh, Laura. It's not going to be easy.
His mother and I had a big argument when he was 16 because he was so out of control. She was claiming she did the best she could and it was all in God's hands.
This makes me so angry. I do not begrudge anyone their faith, but you've gotta do the work too. Children aren't going to raise themselves. Leaving it in God's hands will probably culminate in a lengthy jail term for her son.
I'm sorry for you and DH, Laura.
meara - Sep 30, 2016 10:06:53 am PDT #28524 of 30003
Oh how horrible, Laura. Damn.
sj - Sep 30, 2016 10:12:31 am PDT #28525 of 30003
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
How terrible, Laura. I'm so sorry.
Java cat - Sep 30, 2016 11:15:40 am PDT #28526 of 30003
Not javachik
I'm so sorry, Laura. Yes to lawyer, and make sure the lawyer is AV rated (the top peer rating) at martindale dot com.
Sympathies and all the best to Gud and daughter.
One of my nephews has schizophrenia and we've (mostly my oldest sister/his mother) have dealt with it all, esp legal issues. Getting a top notch atty was key in getting nephew the best help in all areas including medical for his issues.
JenP - Sep 30, 2016 11:16:18 am PDT #28527 of 30003
I'm sorry for what you are all going through, Gud.
Laura, I'm so sorry. What a horrible thing.
amyth - Sep 30, 2016 11:35:09 am PDT #28528 of 30003
And none of us deserving the cruelty or the grace -- Leonard Cohen
Oh, Laura, that is just so tragic. I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to your whole family.
Gud, continuing to wish all the best to you and yours.
Laura - Sep 30, 2016 11:59:26 am PDT #28529 of 30003
Our wings are not tired.
Thank you all. It is such a nightmare for so many. The mother makes me stark raving mad. Not at all a surprise to me her reaction was 'he's 18, he can deal with it'. Um, no. We have all done incredibly stupid things in our youth, well maybe not all, but most. There is no excuse for this mess he is in, but he still needs help. Thank you for the support. It is just so awful.
Fred Pete - Sep 30, 2016 12:17:15 pm PDT #28530 of 30003
Ann, that's a ferret.
Laura, that's terrible. Let's hope that it at least serves as a wake-up call for somebody.
Somebody should remind the mother of the old saying, "God helps those that help themselves."
Matt the Bruins fan - Sep 30, 2016 12:20:20 pm PDT #28531 of 30003
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
Sorry about that nightmare of a situation, Laura.