Illyria: We cling to what is gone. Is there anything in this life but grief? Wesley: There's love. There's hope...for some. There's hope that you'll find something worthy...that your life will lead you to some joy...that after everything...you can still be surprised. Illyria: Is that enough? Is that enough to live on?

'Shells'


Natter 74: Ready or Not  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Pix - Sep 04, 2016 7:06:58 am PDT #27060 of 30003
The status is NOT quo.

And one more piece of advice and then I'll shut up — if nothing else, start documenting everything. Every time she belittles you or abuses you in any way, emotional or physical or verbal. You've done that a little on this board. These kinds of posts or journals are frequently used in custody trials.

But truly, the most important thing for you to know is that this is a safe place, and we hear you.


erikaj - Sep 04, 2016 8:14:15 am PDT #27061 of 30003
Always Anti-fascist!

That is crazy, Gud. It seems to me that she...looks for reasons to be upset. To put it mildly. They are your children too. Granted, you would have to say more than you want about...situations like that, but a case could be made, if you had to.


Laura - Sep 04, 2016 8:23:24 am PDT #27062 of 30003
Our wings are not tired.

I have tears in my eyes, Gud. Honestly, when you consider the children also consider that they are learning about interpersonal relationships every day in their home, and this isn't what you want them to learn. You have a right to be respected and valued. We don't want you to feel piled on, but we don't want to see you abused either. And this is abuse.


Gudanov - Sep 04, 2016 9:27:12 am PDT #27063 of 30003
Coding and Sleeping

Thanks for the support.


erikaj - Sep 04, 2016 9:44:37 am PDT #27064 of 30003
Always Anti-fascist!

You're a good guy...you deserve some peace at home.


sarameg - Sep 04, 2016 3:50:52 pm PDT #27065 of 30003

I hope you find a path through this, Gud.

I successfully bought bras today. $60 bras, but less trauma than usual. Afraid I was a little abrupt with the sales lady at first, but then made sure to make nice later (because she was just doing her job and proved really helpful, I'm just a problem child who walks into a bra shop ready to be failed.) Real shocker? Going from about to-self-destruct, now slightly-too-large cups of a 34DD to a 36C. With my rib age circumference having shrunk. Bra sizing, I don't get you. But I do know that only balconettes avoid giving me quadraboob, and they're frighteningly few options there.

And I bought a new reinforced cable for my iPad, one that hopefully Pumpkin won't chew on. I had way too much duck tape and electrical tape on the old (which she also didn't mind chewing, damnit.)

Last day of outdoor swim tomorrow! Hoping to fix my funky tan lines, not burn. And do some yard work.


Gudanov - Sep 04, 2016 4:02:06 pm PDT #27066 of 30003
Coding and Sleeping

Well, the day got a lot better. I thought it was the beginning of a very bad day, but it turned out not to be. I also managed to do some mowing, clean the kitchen, go to the grocery store, do a lot of cleaning in the basement, do some vacuuming, do two loads of dishes, grill a nice dinner, and return the kitchen to its relatively clean state.


Laura - Sep 04, 2016 4:05:33 pm PDT #27067 of 30003
Our wings are not tired.

I spent much of the day with family at my 3 yo nephew's birthday party. It was really nice. Did a bunch of swimming and playing.


Gudanov - Sep 04, 2016 4:07:43 pm PDT #27068 of 30003
Coding and Sleeping

Also, I set up an encrypted volume on my desktop computer where I can keep all my secret stuff, mostly taxes, anything with a SSN number, and the plans for my robot army. I've been concerned that I had too much easily read information on my computer if it was ever physically stolen. The NAS already has a special encrypted volume (named 'Snowden') and my laptop is encrypted. Maybe I'm paranoid, but it also isn't a lot of effort.


Gudanov - Sep 04, 2016 4:21:58 pm PDT #27069 of 30003
Coding and Sleeping

During my basement cleaning I'm again confronted by the two perfectly good desktop computers that aren't doing anything. I've tried to give them away a few times, but nobody seems to want desktop computers. It doesn't help that they don't have monitors or operating systems. (One had a retail version of Windows that got transferred to another computer, the other has only run a Xen Hypervisor and Linux). We're talking four core processors (Core 2 Quad and Phenom II) and 8GB of RAM in each with 1TB drives.