It sounds like you are picking up on something that she's telegraphing, hence your discomfort. She seems like she has bad boundaries, or at least gives off the appearance of having bad boundaries. I am usually cautious around people who seem to push for too much intimacy too quickly.

Actually, I get it . I have a surface friend - and another friend and I were trying to figure out why it is staying there. We decided she is just a little desperate (possibly due to her current living situation)and it makes things awkward. So You have that times about 100. (seriously, if she wanted to hang with you she could have chosen a rib and asked if you were watching the olympics)

yes, if not a red flag, maybe a cranberry one. cause maybe she'll hate you that fast, too.

Timelies all!

Another milestone- yesterday we got the little guy his first pair of shoes. (He's not walking yet, but they do take the kids outside to play at daycare.) Right now he is at the neighborhood pool with Gary and my MIL.

Officially too warm inside to clean. Even if the cat hair is out of control.

Swam outside at Druid. And OF COURSE I ran into John, a fav lifeguard from my pool who also swims laps.Waiting to see how much of a burn develops, if any. I do love that pool, but my Y is just too convenient.

Hec, I want you to know that your "good enough" advice was the biggest kindness ever paid me, when I was a young mother. I was hellbent on unachievable perfection and my anxiety disorder kept me in constant pursuit of it. You (and, well, meds) woke me up and made life more bearable.

Awww, thanks, Cindy. I have to say that (so far) the results with Emmett and Matilda have been encouraging. I should send you some new pictures of them.

For those of you who follow along on FB, you know that Matilda got her ears pierced this week. What I didn't mention there is that we wound up having some complications with the piercings. They were really hurting her and the sharp ends of the posts were jabbing into her neck when she slept, and the backings were pinching and tight.

My friend suggested I take her back to Claire's to get softer backings. And when we took her in they were concerned that the studs were getting embedded in her ears.

They took off the metal butterfly back on one stud easily.

But the other one would not come off. And they had to wrestle with it for fifteen minutes there in the store. Matilda was very brave but it really started to hurt a lot and she busted out wailing in tears - which drew lots of frightened looks from other kids lined up to get their ears pierced.

Oof, there's nothing worse than seeing your kid in pain and there's nothing you can do but move forward to get to the solution. Which we did eventually after many many tears and sobs.

But it made a huge difference in her comfort level immediately. The backing had been pinching so back and causing her a lot of pain.

Anyway, all is well now. And half her hair is now dyed purple.

First day of school tomorrow! Fifth grade beckons.

Aw, poor Matilda.

Oh poor kiddo! My ears hurt just reading the tale.

Oof, I feel for Matilda! poor kid!

But her hair looks great!

I had a terrible time with my ears and piercings, either with infections, cysts or growing closed. I finally just gave up on it. Hopefully that doesn't happen to Matilda because she has such a great sense of style and she'd use earrings well.