I had a student who was taking methotrexate for an autoimmune disorder and she said it was a lifesaver. Anecdotal I know, but encouraging.

I totally need to hear stuff like this! That's awesome.

In the doctor's defense, warfarin in medicine is called coumedin, so only pesky people who read labels know its dark secret and the one weird trick doctors don't want you to know (reading too many Internet ads).

ND, how long did she take care of your Mom? If it was, like six weeks, then she is nuts. If it was a a year or two, then I understand why she might be entitled to a BIT more, but not everything. And the division of the estate should have been DISCUSSED, not just her grabbing all the marbles.

Jeez, makes me glad both Jason's and my parents are broke and won't have anything to leave us.

warfarin in medicine is called coumedin

Warfarin is the generic name for Coumadin, like ibuprofen and Advil. So the doctors aren't pulling a fast one; they're just calling it by a brand name.

its dark secret

To be fair, it dissolves blood clots so people don't die. That's actually pretty awesome in my book.

ND, how long did she take care of your Mom? If it was, like six weeks, then she is nuts. If it was a a year or two, then I understand why she might be entitled to a BIT more, but not everything. And the division of the estate should have been DISCUSSED, not just her grabbing all the marbles.

It was 8 years, and I had no problem with her having a much larger piece of things. She frames it as she ruined her life to come out and take care of mom, so she's entitled to the house. However, she made her choices, and she also lived in the house rent free for 8 years, and she was managing things, not doing the front line caregiving, we had in house caregiving staff hired in for that part. That's how she went through around $850,000 in 8 years taking care of mom. She also didn't work for most of that time, she's got a small part time job now.

She got the will and trust changed so that it goes to her, then my niece, then her husband, then me. The main asset is a house worth about $650,000. There's a line of credit against it, but even after that she's going to net hundreds of thousands of dollars.

I would have been happy giving her the lions share of that and maybe getting enough that Pix and I could have had downpayment on a house. I tried to have that discussion with her, but it was not on the table, she feels she is entitled to moms house, free and clear with no mortgage, and if I take her to court to contest it most of the estate will get used up fighting in court.

So yeah. She thinks we'll still have a relationship, but I don't feel a need to see her again. I'm sure I'll hear from her the next time she runs out of money.

She got the will and trust changed

I was going to ask if that's even legal, but then you said this

if I take her to court to contest it most of the estate will get used up fighting in court.

so I assume that what she did isn't legal but not worth fighting. That's so lousy, ND. I'm sorry.

That is so shitty. I volunteer to be your adopted sister.

It looks like it was done back in 2012. Mom wasn't really all there, and it's checked out by a notary that's a friend of my sister. So yeah, I could challenge, but then an even bigger mess and I just want to get on with my life. She'll find a way to be out of money again in a few years anyway.

To be fair, it dissolves blood clots so people don't die. That's actually pretty awesome in my book.

My mom was on Coumadin for a long while due to blood clots.

That is so shitty.

It is discussions like this that make me glad I'm an only child. Settling my mom's affairs after she passed was fairly straight forward. Then again, she didn't really have a lot to settle. My dad, on the other hand, I'm not quite sure what his will says though I know their house and probably the rest of their assets are in a trust, so I'm assuming it all goes to his wife if he goes first.