I've seen this shared on FB, but I don't think it's popped up here. A discussion on "emotional labor" and how it almost always falls to women and is devalued.

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It makes me think of how, when my grandfather was in a nursing home, my grandmother expected that my mother would do the majority of X, Y, and Z, even though my uncle was just as accessible.

I have become Bizzaro!Zen. I'm drinking coffee instead of Mountain Dew. I like Comic Sans. I don't care what you do with the Oxford comma. I just ate a brown banana and it didn't make me gag. Yesterday I cleaned a bathroom and today I will clean another one. I shipped all my eBay packages on the same day they sold! Later I might eat cilantro and find it tasty! WHAT WORLD IS THIS YOU DON'T KNOW ANYMORE

Someday I want to write/think deeply on the emotional labor of doing costumes, and how that makes it different than lights, sound and set. It is sort of a chicken-egg thing- by our nature, people doing wardrobe are physically closer to the actors, so it sort of makes sense that we take care of them, but in my experience in smaller theatres costumes/wardrobe are the lowest paid and/or are somehow non-union while the set crew are union.

Dana, the original piece on the Toast was written by an old friend of mine! She's fantastic (obviously).

Worry if a goatee spontaneously appears, Zen.

I'm perimenopausal, it could happen.

in my experience in smaller theatres costumes/wardrobe are the lowest paid and/or are somehow non-union while the set crew are union.

Is it a women's work thing?

I assume it is a woman's work thing, but there areso, but I would have less experience in more larger professional theatres like Drew or aurelia. Currently I work with professional designers from across the country, but our staffing much lower than a regional theatre, for example, just one person per department.

(She's due November 11.)

Now I want her to be born on her predicted birthday, at 11 am of course, for the most perfect Armistice Day reference ("11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month").

Zen, light roast coffees may be lighter in flavor, but they are usually higher in caffeine too FWIW.

My belly is trying to pull me to go get lunch out, so I looked up the nutritional info online. 900 calories vs. the 440 I have brought with me. To bad so sad belly, brought food wins. For that is a restaurant salad adjusted to lose cheese and chips vs. Frozen Indian food.

IO non food N - I am doing my first 5k of the year in 2 weeks, just decided yesterday. The one 5k that I have done for the last 2 years I skipped this year. I'll just walk the whole thing, but I am excited to do one.