I totally understand that feeling, but I also feel like he's allowed to process his grief, you know?
If the story's even getting published, at this point.
This is another one of those complicated things with no good answer, isn't it.
There's more than one way to skin a cat. And I happen to know that's factually true.
Mayor ,'Lies My Parents Told Me'
ita's thread
A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.
Dana - Oct 17, 2016 10:22:10 am PDT #2611 of 3156
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
Steph L. - Oct 17, 2016 10:27:27 am PDT #2612 of 3156
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe
I totally understand that feeling, but I also feel like he's allowed to process his grief, you know?
Yes. I would never tell other people how to react here, but my take is that people who do really shitty, hurtful things are also people who do good things. Which is why this:
This is another one of those complicated things with no good answer, isn't it.
is pretty much the crux of it for me.
Amy - Oct 17, 2016 10:38:07 am PDT #2613 of 3156
Because books.
It is complicated. And I get that, about grief (and any other feelings). Also about shitty people sometimes doing good things (and the inverse).
But right now I'm looking at this through a really cynical lens (which is just my reaction).
Dana - Oct 17, 2016 10:44:54 am PDT #2614 of 3156
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
I know. I guess I'm just trying to talk out my reactions.
Amy - Oct 17, 2016 10:46:35 am PDT #2615 of 3156
Because books.
Me, too! And there's no need for consensus *here* -- we're all going to feel how we feel.
Glamcookie - Oct 17, 2016 11:19:35 am PDT #2616 of 3156
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
Strange how quickly something can go from warm fuzzies to creepy opportunistic feels.
Allyson - Oct 17, 2016 12:41:43 pm PDT #2617 of 3156
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica
I can't be rational about this. I've tried.
Matt the Bruins fan - Oct 17, 2016 12:45:42 pm PDT #2618 of 3156
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
I don't know, I'd imagine it would have been very hard to interact with ita for any great length of time without developing genuine admiration for her unless you were an outright enemy, so I'm inclined to take any memorials at face value. (Also I feel no worries about her having ever been on the receiving end of disrespectful or creepy behavior, 'cause dude's not crazy.)
Laura - Oct 17, 2016 1:03:04 pm PDT #2619 of 3156
Our wings are not tired.
Thanks, Matt. I agree, and you made me laugh.
Barb - Oct 17, 2016 1:25:04 pm PDT #2620 of 3156
“Not dead yet!”
My first thought when he announced it was that he was co-opting others' grief for himself to get the "Oh! He's so sensitive!" response. I simply coudln't believe he's capable of that sort of deep feeling.
But then, I'm a cynic.