Death is your art. You make it with your hands day after day. That final gasp, that look of peace. And part of you is desperate to know: What's it like? Where does it lead you? And now you see, that's the secret. Not the punch you didn't throw or the kicks you didn't land. She really wanted it. Every Slayer has a death wish. Even you.

Spike ,'Conversations with Dead People'


ita's thread

A place where we can talk about ita, miss ita, and share information about memorials. The hugging started over here in Natter.


beekaytee - Jan 13, 2015 6:53:59 pm PST #256 of 3153
Compassionately intolerant

I followed through on a standing plan to see the Hobbit movie this evening and framed it that I was doing it to honor ita's love of that world.

I could not stop crying. I hated it with a venom that I'm sure it did not deserve.

Now, I'm so flat I just can't. Nothing but be here and read. And tear up.

Jeez, I just stood and stared a the last sentence trying to think of something else to say.

There just isn't anything to say.


meara - Jan 13, 2015 6:56:36 pm PST #257 of 3153

I definitely have a number of photos at home I could contribute. And money if need be.


javachik - Jan 13, 2015 6:57:55 pm PST #258 of 3153
Our wings are not tired.

Ginger if you're serious, I've got a connection with someone who also knew ita back in TT (not Buffistas) and she's telling me there is private group on FB filled with people who had lost touch with ita but care a great deal about her passing. They want to know about where to send cards, flowers, donations, etc. and I told her I would let her know once the details are sorted out. I am certain many of them would like to send stories/photos so if you're going to be the recipient please let me know when it's okay to give your contact details out.

I'd have volunteered to do this but I was point person like this for another friend who died in October and I am still reeling from that. So I can help but not spearhead.


Amy - Jan 13, 2015 6:59:02 pm PST #259 of 3153
Because books.

I have no photos but a lot of ita memories to share. And I can help with anyone who wants to write something and needs words.


Steph L. - Jan 13, 2015 6:59:53 pm PST #260 of 3153
the hardest to learn / was the least complicated

there is private group on FB filled with people who had lost touch with ita but care a great deal about her passing.

This, in addition to io9? I'm not surprised, but I am kind of overwhelmed at how loved she is.


Susan W. - Jan 13, 2015 7:00:35 pm PST #261 of 3153
Good Trouble and Righteous Fights

Allyson, I think it's a splendid idea, and while I don't have the time to help coordinate, I'd be happy to chip in a small donation if that would be useful.


P.M. Marc - Jan 13, 2015 7:01:23 pm PST #262 of 3153
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear

Ginger, thank you.

Allyson, you're already doing so much. It's not at all dramatic or bad that you're recognizing both something that needs to be done, and that it's something you're not able to do that we can get done. 300 footprints, and all.


javachik - Jan 13, 2015 7:06:09 pm PST #263 of 3153
Our wings are not tired.

This, in addition to io9? I'm not surprised, but I am kind of overwhelmed at how loved she is.

Yep. My friend Michele saw my post on FB and immediately texted me with WTF. She didn't even know ita and I were friends. It's another group of people who did the TT, WX, PF thing and then went their own way to create another forum. And then a bunch of people left that forum and are now just on FB but in a secret group. I have been invited to that secret group but I am wary of letting people I haven't vetted personally know my real name.


Ginger - Jan 13, 2015 7:08:14 pm PST #264 of 3153
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda

If Allyson is okay with my doing it, I'd be fine with y'all giving out my profile addy.

Another option would be for the members of that group to join the Facebook Buffistas page, because I would ask people to post pictures there.


Beverly - Jan 13, 2015 7:10:16 pm PST #265 of 3153
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.

Allyson, that's a damned good idea. I'll help if I can. I have collected all the photos that have been posted on the Buffistas FB today. They're all available for use, as long as their owners don't mind.

I keep remembering the b/w one of Betsy and ita and her cane at Deb's.