Being executor sucks but that's because I find so much of it is beyond my skill set. Like taking care of corporate taxes? Not something I'm good at. Oh well.

One of the things we established yesterday is that while I am the named primary executor, if I decline my sister will be assigned, and if she declines there's a professional fiduciary who will step in. Which is a relief. I think things will actually be pretty simple but I am glad there are plans b and c in place.

Calli--speaking as an HR person, we don't ask people to keep an eye out for opening at out company unless they were impressive and we are actually interested.

Yeah, I really hope my super sincere rejection emails along those lines (always emails!) are actually read and received. I really think you could work here! Not in this position!

Calli--speaking as an HR person, we don't ask people to keep an eye out for opening at out company unless they were impressive and we are actually interested.

Yeah, I really hope my super sincere rejection emails along those lines (always emails!) are actually read and received. I really think you could work here! Not in this position!

Yeah, I'm fine with those comments in email. But the sound of high cheer in her voice grated like hell on my 4 months of unemployment. Don't phone me and make me be civil about my rejection. Send an email so I can weep in private.

ETA: It is nice to know they're not just blowing smoke about checking back, though. Thanks!

professional fiduciary

I need to find my sister one of these, so she can name a backup in case I'm incapacitated. She'll never trust anyone but me to do it right, though; I suspect she doesn't really trust that I can do it.

Calling someone with bad news is definitely not my idea of a good time. It must be someone's idea of good manners?

Thank you all for your tips and commiseration. Strix, insent with a big old THANK YOU!

Glam, move to Seattle, not the southeast!

I was rejected AGAIN by the same big company I interviewed with last year. Hrmph. We are looking at the southeast to be closer to family (they all live in SC) and to just scale back on the stress of living in the city. We're ready for a quiet, simple family life for now. I like Seattle, but the commute looks insane and the cost of living isn't much less than LA so...

Calling someone with bad news is definitely not my idea of a good time. It must be someone's idea of good manners?

It's the first phone rejection I've had. There've been a couple of dozen no-thanks emails from other orgs. Some people have trouble with phones and prefer email. Maybe she was the opposite.

Calling someone with bad news is definitely not my idea of a good time. It must be someone's idea of good manners?

My first job out of college, on my first day, my boss had me send a letter (this was 1994) to the other person who interviewed for my position. I mean, he gave me a tape that he dictated and I had to transcribe it. And it started with "I am pleased to announce we have hired Stephanie L..."

And I thought, who that fuck DOES that to someone who you're rejecting? "I am PLEASED to announce?" That's just cruel. It totally gets the person's hopes up and then crushes them. But it was my very first day in my very first job, so I didn't want to start my career as a Working Lady by saying, "Um, bossman, I think this gives the wrong impression..."

"I am PLEASED to announce?"

That's the thing. When someone calls sounding like she just got a puppy, all "I'm from [org] and I'm calling for [Calli]" I kind of expect the rest of the conversation to continue in a more pleasant direction.

Meh. Mercury's in retrograde until tomorrow afternoon. Ima let this go.