Tried to go see Gone Girl, but it was sold out! So we got some popcorn anyway, listened to some brass bands [link] and came home.
Inara: You don't have to die alone. Mal: Everybody dies alone.
'Out Of Gas'
Natter 73: Chuck Norris only wishes he could Natter
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, butt kicking, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Jesse - Oct 11, 2014 3:17:13 pm PDT #8038 of 30000
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Sheryl - Oct 11, 2014 4:19:58 pm PDT #8039 of 30000
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
Timelies all!
Taking advantage of free Wi-Fi. Access is kind of random here.
Burrell - Oct 11, 2014 5:00:53 pm PDT #8040 of 30000
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Took a harbor cruise and watched the Blue Angels today. Wow, that was amazing!
sarameg - Oct 11, 2014 5:01:53 pm PDT #8041 of 30000
I did project-per-post-it list. Some will take a mere hour. Some...well, the goal is to keep busy. And have hardware stores own me (and each postit has a supplies list.) I'm up to 17.
Julie, you did the right thing. Not your job to make everyone feel all rosy about what sound like a horrid situation. Your job is to make you comfortable and safe. I'll be first to admit I've never had a high tolerance for drama and bullshit, but I've gotten more impatient with it over the years. In some ways, it's made me more selfish, I guess, but it's also made me happier and healthier.
Also, I don't really think of hormone reactions as irrational-just amplified. They are emotions I would have anyway, but would get mitigated by other coping mechanisms. Shunted, ignored, dismissed. It's like I don't have a volume knob. So that which would mildly annoy me but I'd blow it off? It's blaring at 11 in my ear. I'm cognizant that my sensitivity is amped, but it doesn't make the feels go away. And it doesn't mean that irritant is not annoying- just my ability to cope with it is altered. And so I'll cope with whatever I've got. And that's fine and doesn't make me irrational. It feels wildly out of control sometimes, especially in retrospect, but, well, I'm still me, just with different tolerances and tools than I'm used to. And that's sometimes uncomfortable.
Juliebird - Oct 11, 2014 5:52:17 pm PDT #8042 of 30000
I am the fly who dreams of the spider
Little bro starts out sympathetic, then pulls out the "suck it up, we're living with this daily and mom will DIE one day and you didn't go to the Bronx zoo with her!".
I have so many irrelevant things to say to that. One of them being that we were only going to the zoo because it was his desire to see it.
Connie Neil - Oct 11, 2014 6:02:13 pm PDT #8043 of 30000
brillig
The one relevant thing you have to say to that is "I am not responsible for how you choose to live."
sarameg - Oct 11, 2014 6:05:08 pm PDT #8044 of 30000
They chose to live it daily. You can choose how to spend the time with those that you want to in a meaningful manner.
She'll die one day and you don't have to remember an awkward, freaked out day at the zoo, pretending. You be the architect of what you want to share with them. And stop answering the phone, but that's just me and all that.
Juliebird - Oct 11, 2014 6:23:09 pm PDT #8045 of 30000
I am the fly who dreams of the spider
I've blocked both brothers. Thanksgiving will be interesting but short, if it happens at all
sarameg - Oct 11, 2014 6:27:53 pm PDT #8046 of 30000
Make your own pie. Spend it with people who make you happy.
Consuela - Oct 11, 2014 8:23:38 pm PDT #8047 of 30000
We are Buffistas. This isn't our first apocalypse. -- Pix
Make your own pie.
NATLBSB
Hmm, it's about time I changed my tagline anyway.