Ugh, I cannot figure out how to arrange my weekend so that I can see friends, see my father, and do my work.
I hear you. I continue to have the problem that planning to do any one thing seems to just wipe out the whole day. Today I am attempting to do two things, both the other side of a bridge from me, and hoping to get home in time to maybe do some cleaning or something before I collapse. We'll see how it goes, but starting in the morning should help. So, really, I should eat breakfast and get dressed about...now...
Prioritizing your own safety and well-being over someone else's feelings is okay, Juliebird. It's sad that that's a choice you have to make, and it's not easy, but it doesn't make you a bad person, daughter, or sister.
Yeah, that. I think people always have the right to leave a situation in which they are uncomfortable, even if it's with their family.
I continue to have the problem that planning to do any one thing seems to just wipe out the whole day.
Yes! Now I am regretting not bringing the computer home, because theoretically it would have made more sense to do a couple of hours here and there, rather than make it a whole event. Ah well! I think I'm going to bail on the thing tomorrow afternoon, do the work then, and figure out something fun for Monday.
Well, what I feared has happened. I'm the bad guy.
No you are not. Just because someone labeled you that doesn't make it true. I would call you the smart one. Btw, you don't have to participate in theses conversations. There is always some reason to get off the phone or lose an email
I might not be labeled that if I could actually explain myself, but I took too long gathering my thoughts and mum told me to call her back when I was done being pissy. The fact that she started off the phone call with "are you still pissy?" Didn't help.
To compound things, I got my period this morning, and now I'm afraid I fucked things up because I can't control my own hormones and irrational feelings.
Can anyone control hormonal feelings? I thought the point of it was that they are out of control.
If you want to soothe your mother, blame your period, but she sounds like the type who would then embark on a long, stupid lecture on how to manage your period. I'm afraid I would take the "call me when you stop being pissy" to mean "Cool, there's one less duty phone call I have to make for the foreseeable future."
I figured my weekend out! I am at the office now, after seeing my father and having lunch at BK. Then tomorrow I can go apple picking and skip seeing dad, and then see him Monday! Perf. Now to actually get some work done....
Juliebird, I cannot emphasize this enough: you are not the bad guy in this situation. You left a toxic situation, and it at once doesn't matter that it was family, because survivors do what they have to do, and it DOES matter that it's family, because you love your mom and younger brother. It's a really difficult position to be in, especially, as it seems to me, no one else in the family has got your back
It's a horrible situation to be put in, and I'm sorry that you're in it, but you did the right thing.
Anne, you rest yourself up and get your feet back under you. You can't help anyone if you yourself are knocked flat on your ass. I'll watch for an email when you're ready.
Juliebird, I cannot emphasize this enough: you are not the bad guy in this situation. You left a toxic situation, and it at once doesn't matter that it was family, because survivors do what they have to do, and it DOES matter that it's family, because you love your mom and younger brother. It's a really difficult position to be in, especially, as it seems to me, no one else in the family has got your back
It's a horrible situation to be put in, and I'm sorry that you're in it, but you did the right thing.
All of this, a thousand times.
