Yeah, years of having my feelings ignored by my parents makes me feel like I can't get angry unless I'm somehow profound about it.
You can get past that, though, and get to a point where you can just be angry in a non-profound way. Seriously. Would Scrappy and I lie?
And I think you shouldn't ignore how huge it is -- if you're like me -- that you could identify and then acknowledge that you're angry at your parents. It look me until I was in my 30s, I'm pretty sure, to stop thinking the world would end if I was angry at my parents for doing shit that was/is legitimately rage-inducing. Before that, I really thought that if I even admitted I was angry at my parents -- my god, HOW could I even think I had the RIGHT to be angry at them??? -- the world would fucking end. There was no bigger rule than You Feel How I Say You Feel.
Happy Birthday Lee!
I think you should be proud, Tom Scola. I have mostly succeeded in not being angry by also not caring much about my mom. And then I feel guilty, because she is not horrible.
Yeah, years of having my feelings ignored by my parents makes me feel like I can't get angry unless I'm somehow profound about it.
Jeez, guys, this is exactly what I was talking to my therapist about an hour ago. How if I'm not on the verge of dying, my feelings aren't worth having, let alone expressing. And if I feel so angry I want to Hulk-smash the world, well, I'm just calling attention to myself, I don't get to have such strong emotions. And especially I don't get to be angry with my family. Biggest no-no of all.
And, Happy Birthday, Lee!
Oh, you guys. I support you in having and dealing with and/or expressing feelings of all kinds!
In minor victories news, I just got an email that my new sunglasses have been delivered to the store. Except I meant to have them shipped to my house. BUT THEN I realized I have a massage appointment on Saturday, right by the glasses store! Everything works out.
Things working out is superb. More of that for everybody, please.
Is it Phoenix Day? Happy Anniversary, B.org!!
The Owl and the Pussycat.
Kitten and His Best Friend Henry the peacock - YouTube
Pretty funny, as the kitten keeps playing with the peacock's long feathers.
Happy birthday, Lee! And yay for Phoenix too!
And a big heap of What They Said for all the good advice above. I wish I could master it, my anger that is. I can for periods, but not all the time.
