I've had parents tell me that crying kids don't bother them as much now that they're parents--empathy and all that--do you find that's true?

Er, is that a problem?

I think they're trying to normalise it, but I just don't see their grounds for it. Sweeping statement is sweeping. Due to tinnitus I have heard noise 100% of the time for the last 20 years, and can't chalk it up to phantom phones in any of that time, or before.

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The talking-down answer is that the study showed no more than 80% had it, but SEO and click-bait rules require them to say "EVERYONE."

Har. I'm sure those same rules are why so much is "stunning" for them. After a while they just start looking stupid, if they're stunned by so much.

I don't think I've ever heard a phone ring that wasn't a ringing phone (or at least a ringing something). I feel my phone vibrate when I didn't get a call, but I get a LOT of alerts for various things and the phone vibrates for many of them. Can't be bothered to figure out which are the ones I'm habitually ignoring and turn them off.

Movement in my peripheral vision I don't worry about. Peripheral vision is really sensitive to movement, after all, bound to be false positives. Hearing my name creeps me out, but it doesn't exactly worry me. If it escalated I might worry, but it hasn't yet.

I've had parents tell me that crying kids don't bother them as much now that they're parents--empathy and all that--do you find that's true?

For me, kinda. Depends on the kind of crying. If the kid is still tiny and is crying as communication, I'm cool with it. If the kid is older and there is bad parenting involved in the crying, it bugs me even more. Judgey McJudgerson here.

Though sometimes letting a kid cry is good parenting. The other day parents in Target in the cashier line had a kid crying for a toy. Grabbing it, putting it in the cart and crying when the parent put in back. "No, no no" he'd sob everytime the parents put the toy back. They ignored him and put in back anyway. They were not going to let their kid sob or tantrum his way into reversing their decision. Looked like good parenting to me

Pretty sure I've never hallucinated a ringing phone. Fuck, when a phone is actually ringing, I'm sometimes hard pressed to identify the source.

And never a vibrating phone because I rarely carry one. Outside of my experience.

Well, I am in Dubai. Now to enjoy the hospitality of the lounge for the next 9 or so hours. Trying to decide if I want to try to sack out here, or go to the nap pod place I saw a few gates down--that's $28/hour though! Wish the dude in the corner would leave so I could snag his chair.

And because I'm super lucky, I managed to spill an entire bottle of water into my purse as I got up to walk to my gate to board my plane here. Soaked my tickets, passport, ipad, kindle, and iPhone. Fingers crossed but so far phone and ipad seem to be ok. (At first ipad kept asking if I wanted to turn it off, thinking I had hit the power button, but eventually that stopped) the kindle may be SOL though--I'd hit page forward, it would go forward for a second, then skip several pages back. Can't read like that. But I had a bunch of books from calibre downloaded that I hadn't read yet (and I hate reading on the ipad for long periods of time due to glare). Ugh.

On the. Plus side, this lounge is nice and quiet, and also has a whole fancy dining room with various foods and drinks! And a shower, which I hope to use later.

And I have definitely felt the phantom phone vibration! But I have not strapped any babies to m in battle.

I've had parents tell me that crying kids don't bother them as much now that they're parents--empathy and all that--do you find that's true?

I wouldn't describe it as being bothered or not so much as being better able to read a child's or infant's cries. Fussy baby/toddler stuff still sets me off to hear, but I don't judge the parents for it. Hmm, now that I think of it, the sounds can get to me, but I find my reaction tends to be mitigated by the not-my-kid factor.

I think they're trying to normalise it, but I just don't see their grounds for it.

I think you're right, the article is trying to normalize it, at least that's the implication of saying "everyone" has heard it.

IME tantrums can continue into the school age years, but parental tolerance usually peters out around preschool.

I can't fault the mom, she seems to respond by trying to calm her daughter down in a pretty normal tone of voice, which I'd consider the ideal approach. But wow, the kid's fussier than most infants I've been around.

Also: hear my name being called, feel my phone vibrate when it's not, see people moving on the sides of my peripheral vision.

My brain does that, too. I assume it's my brain. If it's spirits trying to tell me something, they need to step up their game.

Hot sunny day. Perfect time to make a Dutch Baby pancake, caramelized apples, and hot coffee for lunch, right? But oh, so tasty.

I frequently mistake the sound of the bathroom overhead fans for the phone ringing at work, but others do as well so I don't think it would count as an hallucination.