I'm surprised at how majorly PISSED OFF this is making me.

Agreed. Progress should be as compelling news as disaster.

Agreed. Progress should be as compelling news as disaster.

Yeah. Plus the huge change illustrates how fucked up the police's initial response was. That needs to be emphasized.

So very, very sorry for your loss, tommy.

Thanks everyone for your support.

I'm driving up today to meet my siblings at the funeral home for some planning. You know, I haven't worn a suit in 20 years so I don't have one that fits. I'll ask my siblings if they think I should get one. I wonder if I can have a rush suit-fitting job so I'll have it in time. Maybe I'll just buy a off-the-rack black jacket.

I'm certain some of my nephews did something similar for Mom's service. Feeling very with you, tommy.

I remember doing fast shopping for my FIL's funeral, but it turned out Hubby and I were the only ones in black. Everyone else just wore Sunday best.

re: Ferguson, the press' rule has been "If it bleeds, it leads." Reasonable people working together isn't that compelling for the masses.

I wonder if I can have a rush suit-fitting job so I'll have it in time.

Have you set a date for the funeral yet? Men's Warehouse turned around a suit for Tim's mom's funeral in a couple of days. (Fortunately the only real alternation needed was hemming the pants for length.) And Tim was upfront and said "This is for my mom's funeral, which is on Tuesday, and my budget is $300," and the salesman was wonderful. If you have a Men's Warehouse near you, might be worth checking out, if you have the time.

So nice to have so much actual experience to draw from.

In much less important news, I have such a quandry! I still can't decide if I actually want to get the Invisalign. The orthodontist said that to actually fix my mouth would take real braces and teeth pulling, but I definitely don't care enough about my overbite for all that. Just straightening out the front is 12-18 months and several thousand dollars, although apparently I have the best possible insurance for this. I have the money. But is this where I should be spending it? I have to decide today for maximum FSA benefit. On one upside, my night guard is getting manky, and that would be $500 to replace, so there's an upcoming dental expense that this would replace. Dither, dither, dither!!

I'd lean away from anything that involves tooth-pulling, because teeth are not replaceable, so if you lost one or two naturally, you'd still have some to fill the gaps. But then, I've had 4 pulled because eventually root canals and crowns didn't save teeth, so I'm hanging on fiercely to all that are left.

I'ms so sorry for your loss, tommyrot. Also, I think if you have a nicer pair of trousers, you could get away with just buying a dark blazer to put over a dress shirt and tie.