Today is my younger brother Dan's birthday. The rest of us siblings all sent him emails wishing him a happy birthday and telling him we love him. Hopefully he'll get them, as he's been avoiding communicating with us since November.
When my Dad died in August, his life insurance policy payout all went to us kids and the church. We each got about $15,000, but from that we each had to pay about $2,700 for my Dad's funeral. Dan never paid his share and stopped communicating with us when we asked him about it.
So the rest of us siblings each paid an additional $900 to cover his share. To me, $900 seems like such a trivial amount for him to cut himself off from us. We've emailed and texted him saying that we love him and we don't care about the money, but we still haven't heard from him. Our mom (who has Alzheimers) doesn't understand why Dan hasn't been talking to her or visiting her. It's just so sad, but we don't know what do do.
eta: Yes, we've confirmed that nothing bad has happened to Dan.
I'm sorry, shrift. That's a hard place to be.
Ugh, tommy, that's so hard. My cousins pulled something similar after my aunt (their mom) passed away unexpectedly. I have no advice, just empathy. It sounds like you've done the best you can in a bad situation. If it's at all comforting, after a while (year, year and a half?) the cousins got back in touch with us; we just never bring up the rift.
tommy, that is really sad. I'm sorry. I hope he comes around eventually.
I'm thankful that my family's funeral proceedings have been drama-free except for the time we had to make it clear to an uncle's new girlfriend that she was NOT considered family like the ex wife of a quarter century who'd had two kids with the deceased.
Hope your family comes together better than mine, tommy.
Bandage is off, right lens is out of the glasses, I can't believe how well I see out of that eye. The two eyes haven't synched quite up yet, so there's a borderline headache. I'm sure they'll adjust just in time for the next surgery.
I can see the computer screen from my desk chair! But I can't see the tablet very well at arms length, so I will need reading glasses. That's going to be annoying, because for years I've just read books at 4 inches from my face in bed. Oh, well.
And best wishes to all the families.
That's so hard tommyrot. I wonder if his behavior might be connected to your mother's illness as well as your father's passing. IME grief can take all sorts of forms, including things we don't think of as grief, like anger, lashing out at loved ones, rejection, bitter jealousy. I'm sorry.
I'm glad that the various family funerals (and it seems like there have been a lot of them lately) have been drama-free, aside from the general stress involved with the logistics. I know even that has been a load on my parents and their siblings.
Also thankful that there is virtually no drama in my family. It could be significant with a single mom with minority's child, gay marriage, pregnancy before marriage. But nope. All but one of my aunts and uncles are super cool and my cousins are awesome.
Ion, I almost over drew my checking account. Stupid over spending along with 2 big checks from dec and jan hitting at once. I must stop spending money.
