It's okay to cry at your grandmother's funeral, Jesse. But I know you know that. I cried when I read my mother's eulogy, but I just kept on reading.
Occasionally I'm callous and strange.
Willow ,'The Killer In Me'
Natter 72: We Were Unprepared for This
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Burrell - Sep 03, 2013 4:10:09 pm PDT #4218 of 30000
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Jesse - Sep 03, 2013 4:11:44 pm PDT #4219 of 30000
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Oh, I know -- it just seems cheesy to cry during the reading!
Cass - Sep 03, 2013 4:13:50 pm PDT #4220 of 30000
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
People keep telling me I'm insanely patient. I don't think I am. If I was, I wouldn't have a steno pad covered in scrawls of "You are such a moron!" next to me.
Yeah, if you aren't explicitly telling them this? You are patient. And good at your job.
It's okay to cry at your grandmother's funeral, Jesse.
It is. And people routinely cry through readings and eulogies. So if you cry, people are not going to be shocked or think you were unprepared or something. They'll think you love your grandmother. Which is true.
sarameg - Sep 03, 2013 4:14:22 pm PDT #4221 of 30000
My mom did fine at Uncle Frank's memorial until she read the note I'd sent Aunt Sue (she was tasked with reading some of the stories everyone had sent in about Frank.) Sue had a few hard moments, but purposely included funny/exasperating stuff at the points she knew she'd lose it. Frank's brother Wayne really choked up, but managed. We're typically stoic midwestern stock.
Burrell - Sep 03, 2013 4:20:04 pm PDT #4222 of 30000
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
It's not cheesy, it's love!
Juliebird - Sep 03, 2013 4:21:21 pm PDT #4223 of 30000
I am the fly who dreams of the spider
I thought I was fine at my grandfather's wake until I apparently started keening like a banshee. Who knew my jerk of a dad could find the most perfect passage from the bible about fishermen. (Yet my other grandfather I was skipping out of that funeral home, gleeful to be free. And then this weekend at their house with my dad, I actually had to remind myself that she wasn't actually dead yet, for all that I give a fig about my grandmother on my dad's side. I feel bad that his parent's were such nothings).
Jesse - Sep 03, 2013 4:27:15 pm PDT #4224 of 30000
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
OK, undignified. We're Yankees!
Sophia Brooks - Sep 03, 2013 4:31:33 pm PDT #4225 of 30000
Cats to become a rabbit should gather immediately now here
I keened like a banshee over my cat, so at least you are mourning human beings
sarameg - Sep 03, 2013 4:34:50 pm PDT #4226 of 30000
I'm pretty sure my vets & staff are the only folk outside my family who have seen me when a complete blubbering mess. And I usually have held it together better for family!
Steph L. - Sep 03, 2013 4:42:47 pm PDT #4227 of 30000
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
I cried like a damn fool when we put the dalmatian to sleep, and (although I feel like a jerk for saying this) she wasn't even my favorite of the dogs. I can't even contemplate Kato not being around.
But that's okay, because we've discussed it, and he's going to stick around for 50 years. So we're good.