Yeah, I've found myself using ableist language, because so much of our vocabulary for not liking something or thinking something is bad is saturated with slurs.
Me, too. I try not to, but you're right -- the default is generally a slur.
What you did to me was unbelievable, Connor. But then I got stuck in a hell dimension by my girlfriend one time for a hundred years, so three months under the ocean actually gave me perspective. Kind of a M.C. Escher perspective, but I did get time to think.
Angel ,'Conviction (1)'
Natter 72: We Were Unprepared for This
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Steph L. - May 05, 2014 1:48:06 pm PDT #26888 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism
javachik - May 05, 2014 1:48:36 pm PDT #26889 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
I've successfully stopped using "retarded," "dork," and "mental" (harder than you'd think because "mental" is WAY used in England)but admit to saying lame a lot (ETA definitely not in a defiantly asshole way - more like I don't associate it with its origin at all and need to be reminded).
Steph L. - May 05, 2014 1:51:37 pm PDT #26890 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism
Dang, I didn't know "dork" was a slur. I use it fairly often, generally to refer to myself.
t edit Okay, I'm googling -- because I didn't want to just ask you what it referred to when I have the ability to google (it drives me nuts when people who are already ON THE INTERNET do that) -- but I'm not finding anything.
flea - May 05, 2014 1:52:41 pm PDT #26891 of 30000
information libertarian
Huh, I thought "dork" was slang for penis. (Is that an anti-male slur?)
flea - May 05, 2014 1:54:19 pm PDT #26892 of 30000
information libertarian
And in "I love Google" news, there's an Armenian-American scientist whose first name is "Dork." That's gotta be hard in high school.
Steph L. - May 05, 2014 1:54:56 pm PDT #26893 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism
I'm...oddly okay with calling myself a penis.
shrift - May 05, 2014 2:09:15 pm PDT #26894 of 30000
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
I've been working on removing stuff from my vocabulary, too. Being mindful of my language often leads me into a "wait, is that offensive?" research spiral.
javachik - May 05, 2014 2:23:12 pm PDT #26895 of 30000
Our wings are not tired.
Ha! Re: dork. I stopped using it because I thought someone told me it was a slur for someone with CP! Maybe I am confusing it with "spaz"???? Yes, that's what. I don't use either. So am I okay with going back to "dork"?
Steph L. - May 05, 2014 2:27:42 pm PDT #26896 of 30000
I look more rad than Lutheranism
So am I okay with going back to "dork"?
I think so!
§ ita § - May 05, 2014 2:29:11 pm PDT #26897 of 30000
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
I'm forgetting something about why you'd think to say "mental" a lot, java, aren't I?