Jesse's morning sounds pretty neat! Better than sara's for sure.

My uncle passed away recently. I wasn't really close to him so I don't need hugs. The funeral is on Monday in Alexandria, MN. My mom and all my siblings are going, but I am so filled with I Don't Wanna. I've been having a fair amount of anxiety recently so I'm not looking forward to all that driving, plus missing work Monday and Tuesday. (I'm already going to my parents' place in Wisconsin on Saturday for Easter brunch.)

I should probably decide today because I'll need to get a cat-sitter if I go. Or maybe I'll just use the excuse of "can't find cat sitter / don't wanna lose vacation days".

Do other folks try to go to every aunt and uncle funerals?

I have quite a large family and didn't feel any pressure to go to funerals unless I felt a personal connection or knew that one of my close family members would appreciate my comfort. Mom went to all of them, and the local family.

I think the vacation/cat reasoning is more than valid. Also that is a lot of driving.

I have a tiny family, pretty much consisting of one cousin and her family; my half sister and her family; and my mother and sister. My cousin's husband died yesterday, and I'm not going to his funeral. I see that cousin maybe twice a year, and we have nothing in common except genes.

Let your mother and sisters represent you.

I am really loving the fucking tourist series.

I've gone to my aunt's and uncles' funerals. Only one out of of my 20+ cousins returned the favor when either of my parents died. I'm still a bit bummed about that, especially since one family basically drove past Mom's evening viewing on their way to the beach. Way to share "Christ's comfort in our time of sorrow" cousin. But it sounds like representatives from your branch of the family is showing up, so I wouldn't worry about it.

ItS called: apparently somehow the operating system on my laptop was completely corrupted so they're going to have to start from scratch or something. .. he says that they can save what's on it.

So, at least it's salvageable.

But how the heck did I do that?

Part of me really does want to go, to hang out with my family and see relatives. It's this stupid anxiety--lately I've had to pay really close attention to what gives me anxiety so I can try to mitigate it or avoid those things entirely.

Do other folks try to go to every aunt and uncle funerals?

Not aware of any aunts or uncles that have died. However, my grandparents came from large families, and I went to several visitations of great-aunts and great-uncles as a kid, as long as they were local. Got a surprise at Uncle Don's visitation when I ran into my English teacher. (She knew him from church.)

Not many male n's in my family. The only one I can think of is my grandfather, Merlin.

For me the question would be -- would my parental unit feel better if I was there? (And how much better, for an emotional ROI.) That's a lot of time to take off, and a long journey, too.