My brother is just stubborn about paying for certain things he ''can do himself" (ahem.) my SIL agrees this is a pita.

I've got bruises all over my shins, but that's from my sil's SUV that I've been hauling stuff with. I keep whacking myself on the same damn corner of the door all week.

Will probably lose Internut (haha, my autocorrect knows I deliberately misspell that!) later today until it theoretically starts at the new house tomorrow.

Craziness ahead!

I wish you continued strength! Mental and physical.

And have generally appreciated wedding favors, even the ones I've had to assemble, because people I know are mostly low-key about this kind of thing. And I'm not going to lie, I've always appreciated a welcome bag.

If a wedding didn't have them, though (either one), would you have felt "cheated" (I can't think of a better word; maybe "disappointed")? I know that people tend to expect at least favors (if not a welcome bag for out-of-towners), since many weddings do them now, and apparently some people are disappointed (verging on feeling cheated) if they don't get a favor.

As a guest, I honestly would never notice if there weren't favors, but I'm very possibly an outlier. My reaction to favors is, first, "Hey, look, stuff." And then either "Chocolate, yay!", "That's cool!", or "What on earth am I going to do with this?" I would have totally loved a Sharpie.

My reaction to favors is, first, "Hey, look, stuff." And then either "Chocolate, yay!", "That's cool!", or "What on earth am I going to do with this?" I would have totally loved a Sharpie.

Pretty much this. I certainly wouldn't feel slighted by the lack.

I don't think I would even notice if a wedding didn't have favors.

I do like the idea of having goodie/activity bags for any children in attendance, though, in hopes of keeping them occupied.

If a wedding didn't have them, though (either one), would you have felt "cheated"

Oh god no. Due to aforementioned low-key-ness. I only recently realized I should just throw away any cute plastic container they have given me any candy in, instead of keeping it as one more little thing I don't need in my house.

I'm with Brenda--it's a "hey, chocolate!" Not "omg how dare they not". My only beef is if somewhere ( welcome bag or website either works) about what's happening and where and when. And how to get there.

Favors triple in stupidity and complexity for children's parties.

Last year, Noah and Grace gave out full-sized hershey bars with special labels as their favors. And the only food we had at the party was portos potato balls and homemade cookies (dozens and dozens).

I don't even want to do a party this year. I want to do a trip to Legoland where we stay in the hotel.

While I appreciate the consideration that goes into wedding favors, I'd actually rather not have one more thing to carry/keep track of. The only time I felt cheated at a wedding was when a friend who attended the church I worked part-time at picked me as an usher and I ended up spending half the ceremony dragging extension cords up from the basement (because the minister was used to relying on me for such things).

I'm about to kill Tim for his ADD impulsivity this morning. I just need an alibi.