That was really lovely, Connie.
That had me tearing up. I'm glad he has you and I'm glad he's got a tribe.
And I'm glad you have us.
What Aims said.
'Day' is a vestigial mode of time measurement based on solar cycles. It's not applicable. I didn't get you anything.
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EpicTangent - Jan 16, 2014 3:40:04 pm PST #8281 of 30002
Why isn't everyone pelting me with JOY, dammit? - Zenkitty
Connie Neil - Jan 16, 2014 3:44:20 pm PST #8282 of 30002
brillig
I think the fact that he breaks down upsets him most. His entire worldview centers on him being tough and not making me cry. And the more people tell him that it's all right, the more he feels like he's failing me. When I reassure him, I see the "I have to be strong for her" look in his eye.
Maybe there are benefits to not being stoically noble and all that shit.
Zenkitty - Jan 16, 2014 3:45:06 pm PST #8283 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
That had me tearing up. I'm glad he has you and I'm glad he's got a tribe.
And I'm glad you have us.
Bears repeating.
Pix - Jan 16, 2014 3:45:12 pm PST #8284 of 30002
The status is NOT quo.
Thirding what Aims said.
Typo Boy - Jan 16, 2014 3:46:49 pm PST #8285 of 30002
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.
Connie really don't what to say. Except hugs and good thoughts to you both. And yes I'm glad he has you, and glad he has a tribe.
Laura - Jan 16, 2014 3:57:51 pm PST #8286 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.
When I reassure him, I see the "I have to be strong for her" look in his eye.
If this is the role that is most comfortable for him then this may be where he needs to be right now. Sending comfort and strength ~ma in abundance.
Connie Neil - Jan 16, 2014 4:05:32 pm PST #8287 of 30002
brillig
I've been practicing widowhood scenarios in my head. I've always been obsessed with worst case scenarios. It's comforting, in its grim way, to have responses prepared, even though I wonder at the cold practicality in my soul.
beekaytee - Jan 16, 2014 4:11:45 pm PST #8288 of 30002
Compassionately intolerant
a woman sat down and asked him what was wrong. He told her he'd just gotten his diagnosis. She said, "Look at me," he did, and she took off her hair, as he put it. And she said, "Let's talk."
That had me tearing up. I'm glad he has you and I'm glad he's got a tribe.
And I'm glad you have us.
It can't be said enough.
le nubian - Jan 16, 2014 4:13:13 pm PST #8289 of 30002
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
ditto.
beekaytee - Jan 16, 2014 4:13:38 pm PST #8290 of 30002
Compassionately intolerant
I wonder at the cold practicality in my soul.
Practicality does not have a temperature.
Coping skills are coping skills...neither good nor bad.
Hubby has his Viking ethic, you have your imagination. Both are worthy tools at a time like this.