Biopsy~ma, Connie.

I think if your job isn't sexual objectification-related, being told to add a sexual objectification-based task to your duties is wrong. If you sign up to work at Hooters or a strip club, then more power to you and may your tips be magnificent. And it's great that the guy's dad recognizes that his son is a sexual being (I wonder if he'd arrange for a daughter in similar circumstances to see a Chippendales show?). If there was a general "Who will take this fella to Hooters" call, great. But I was under the impression that Windsparrow didn't feel she had much choice, and that's a non-consensual dose of sexual objectification added to her workload.

Biopsy~ma! A whole bunch of calm~ma too.

I've been to Hooters. Mostly I was disappointed in the food. The girls were nice enough. I'd say a large number of the local joints here that we go to including sports bars and beach joints have scantily clad servers. It isn't just Hooters.

But I was under the impression that Windsparrow didn't feel she had much choice, and that's a non-consensual dose of sexual objectification added to her workload.

Well, I could probably find a way to pass the buck (the other person on duty the night that this is supposed to happen owes me some favors) but that feels weaselly. I mean, it's not like when someone is scheduled to go on a dinner cruise on a paddle wheel boat and I beg off on grounds of motion-sickness. There is no one who can go with this guy who will feel more comfortable than I will. He has the right to go to whatever restaurant he wants to celebrate his birthday; the staff at his residence are obligated to support him in making this happen. If we watch how the power flows in a situation like this, I can say that this is not a case of someone who has more power than I using that power to deliberately make me uncomfortable. It also is not a case of a more privileged person allowing his privilege to run me over. This is someone whose power to get what he wants in a given situation depends on me or my coworkers taking his wishes seriously enough to make them happen. There are enough things in this life that he wants that just flat out can't happen for him. Me feeling uncomfortable should not be a barrier for his desires.

Otherwise we might as well pack all the developmentally disabled people back into large institutions where their main choices in life can be summed up by "eat the food in front of me, or throw it around the room?"

But thank you for prompting me to state this in such an explicit (pun intended) way. It is making me more determined to go with him and see to it he has a fun time.

Hey, if it's a consensual action on your part, WindSparrow, then great! I'm glad the guy in your charge will get an experience that he might not otherwise.

Quick update on family sitch: unwanted present from D has been returned whence it came. Text message sent informing him of this, and why. Much longer text message sent after his response. Managed to edit out the allcaps and swearing (and swearing in allcaps) by the third draft. I... have rather more residual anger about this than I had realised. Various phone calls and monkey-grooming conducted with my siblings. Learned that one of my older brother's closest friends OD'd over the weekend. This week is pretty much sucking all round.

bt, I am sorry that the suckitude is happening.

Ugh, billytea. Not fair for you. At all.

Strength~ma, bt.

{{{ BillyTea }}}