And then take that money and use it to throw a party where you can spend all the time you want talking to your family. Or do something totally self-indulgent.

Separate post: congratulations! I am so pleased you two are married and that the day held some joy for you. Blessings on your marriage for the decades to come.

The Chamber of Commerce, the BBB, Angie's List, Craigslist, Yelp, the local wedding shops, local florists, their own website and facebook page...

Yep, these are the names I'd throw out when presenting your request for discount.

Quite apart from whatever the owner _thinks_ is a rationale, no bride worth her spanx is going to risk being treated in the same way.

If anyone shot pictures of the re-enacters during your time there, ALL THE BETTER.

Oh my. I have a whole counter-PR campaign blooming in my head.

I guess that is how indignant I am on your behalf, Steph!

Oh my. I have a whole counter-PR campaign blooming in my head.

I've been mentally writing the icily contemptuous letter to the B&B owner.

Steph, congratulations! I'm so happy for you! And Tim! You both married wonderful people!

And fuck yes, I'd be angry at the B&B owner. I'd demand a partial refund, and if I didn't get it, I'd go to the Chamber of Commerce and everyplace else bonny suggested. But you know what, I don't think you should give a whole lot of time or energy to it, because then you'd be holding on to it, and you don't need to have that anger in your memories of that day. Write the letter, and then (try to) let it go. (I myself am terrible at letting shit go. But still.)

Looking forward to pictures, especially of you in your fantastic dress!

I am so so SO tired, because I've only slept about 6 hours in the last 2 days. (I didn't sleep much Friday because I was too excited, and last night the lack of sleep was not due to sexytimes -- although they were, in fact, had -- but because my brain hates me and the bed was not my friend. I really think I slept about 2 hours last night. I remember looking at the clock at 4:30 and wondering if I should just get out of bed. And the next thing I knew it was 7 a.m. and the sun was so bright that I couldn't fall back asleep. Tim slept like a rock. Both nights.)

Anyway, I am so tired right now that I can't even contemplate dealing with the owner, for either a refund or a strongly worded letter or both. My mom and stepdad paid for the B&B, and my stepdad is a high-strung ball of stress under even the most mellow of circumstances. And he was PISSED about the double-booking. So he may well already be drafting that letter.

I just want to let go of it emotionally. I know that no wedding is perfect, and things will go wrong, but DAMN.

OTOH, none of my other friends had historical reenactors and a goddamn banjo band at their weddings.

(Although saying that *here* might be incorrect.)

Zen is totally right. Letting it go is the key.

I have to say, once I finally wrote to the former friend of dog-bite infamy, my spirit lost about a hundred pounds of angry weight.

So much so, that when I caught a glimpse of said woman and the two dogs on Friday, I simply switched direction and went about my business without grinding my guts over it.

Whoever first posted that thing on facebook about yelling out PLOT TWIST! totally gets my vote for Nobel Peace Prize.

OTOH, none of my other friends had historical reenactors and a goddamn banjo band at their weddings.

(Although saying that *here* might be incorrect.)

Hahahah! And if it wasn't, it will be for anyone here in the future!

I'm sorry they were stupid shitheads, and I wish one of us could have been there to give them what-for and keep the pressure away from you. :( But I'm glad the rest of it went pretty well and you are happy and a MARRIED LADY!

I ran a 5k this morning, and it was a PR! Unexpected but super happy. Especially because it was actually a slightly long course--so my Garmin thinks I did even better than the race says!

At this point I think you should ask for some $$ back. You have significant complaints and the response to your complaints was inadequate. I also think the Chamber of Commerce needs to know about this.

And Yelp.

And both Tim'sdad and guests who were upset at thei reservation not being honored - sorry, dinner being late - need a punch in the throat. If you can only give in to them here that's still something.

But man, that pic of you and Tim right after the ceremony. Hold on to that.

But man, that pic of you and Tim right after the ceremony. Hold on to that.

Also the butt-grabbing one. Because I married a CLASSY DUDE.

(I've got a picture of me whacking my bro in the back of the head for saying something really smart-ass, and the picture was taken about half a second before I made contact, so he's grinning because he's so proud of his smart-ass comment, but my hand is RIGHTTHERE. It's hilarious. I have to find it.)