Hi Shir, yes, you used both correctly. Sorry about the poor sleep!
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Ugh. Had long-awaited date. Thought it was going ok but maybe not super hot (entertaining but not touchy, but some folks aren't). Drive her back to her place, thought she might be like "ok great to meet you bye!" Instead she invited me in for coffee. I thought that was code for "let's make out", but apparently it's code for "let me give you a tour of my apartment and make you tea and chat and when you eventually say you need to get going, back away from a kiss". Uh, ok....
Thank you, java.
meara, I didn't read the history, but I hope your date is just a bit shy/needs time to open up to people.
I am that person. But have never dated Meara.
Erika, are you that person who invites someone in for coffee but doesn't want to make out? Or the super shy person who backs away when someone actually lays a kiss on you??
I've been both those people. Do kids have to make out on a first date these days? Maybe it's best I don't answer those OKCupid invitations (one of them did want oral sex--dude, I said I'd knock you out. That's not the same as "socks off", even if you want to go down on me)
I don't think I would back away, no, but mostly, I'm slow to warm up.
The Buffistas - where the nesting instinct often refers to parentheses.
Or the super shy person who backs away when someone actually lays a kiss on you??
I have done that, but it was mostly a startle reflex. Which then led to a super-awkward "No, I'm not scared of men because I was traumatized by some horrible event in my past -- I just startle easily" conversation.
Sometimes I don't know if I want to make out with someone yet (or I've made out with them before, and I don't know if I want to do it again then or there) and I dislike being encouraged to be apologetic about it (needless to say, we argued. It is actually all about the chemistry and the timing, not all about me (or all about the other person).