So I walked to the car with another friend to get my cigarettes (I know, I know). While we were gone, Joe apparently tried to talk to her and she said, "I'm ignoring you." Then he said something to effect of, "For someone who claims to be spiritual, you are really narrow minded." She repeated, "I'm ignoring you."

Wait, why was she pissed at Joe and ignoring him? (and obnoxiously telling him so)

Do you have anything with ginger or mint, Hil?

I hate mint. It tastes like evil. Only ginger I have is the frozen kind. I found some Pepto Bismol that expired a few months ago, so I took some of that, figuring it couldn't hurt. Didn't help much either, though.

Maybe you could make some ginger tea with the frozen ginger?

Wait, why was she pissed at Joe and ignoring him? (and obnoxiously telling him so)

Our theory is that J didn't want to hear him tell her she was being an asshole. She is CRAZY conflict avoidant. Won't address or talk about SHIT unless you hunt her down and make her. I'm tired of making her.

AND! According to the text Joe got from her husband today, my getting offended at her was "just another episode of the 'All About Aimee' show." And that teaching Sunday school is NOT teaching because there is no license to do so nor educational requirements and the text hasn't changed in 2000 years so ...

Joe called bullshit on that one citing the fact that basic geometry is older and what? Maths shouldn't be taught anymore? Joe's response to S was a thing of beauty. And nary a swear word to be found.

And even if, for some odd reason, they don't think it's teaching, why bring it up? That's just being unkind and patronizing.

Because ... Well, because ... Okay, so she ...

Yeah, to be shitty is the only thing I can think of.

Yeah, I don't care if it is or it isn't, it's a weird thing to be trying to pick a fight about. And especially once it was clear they were offending you.

I think she's just been spoiling for something for awhile and this was her way. I would try to blame it on the drinking - she's a functional alcoholic - but nope. She knew enough to ignore Joe when he was trying to call her out.

The bottom line is this: I've had enough with half-assed, one-sided, bullshit friendships and I deserve better people in my life. And I have them. I should be spending my time and energy on them and not trying to fix something that, yes, I had a hand in breaking, but getting no cooperation from the other person. As the inimitable Murtaugh once told us, "I am too old for this shit."

As for the offending me, S also said that he is "tired of tip-toeing around my thin skin."