It will be equally or more beautiful without the poof, I have no doubts.

Steph - I loved your hair! So gorgeous!!

The swirly back of the hair is amazing, Steph. I really like it.

So the notes I made for the new evaporative cooler were: Turn On. Set Tep. So, apparently I am intended to wait for Tep to set it. But I just picked a goal temperature and have been letting it do its own thing.

How's the healing, smonster?

I get a lot of wrong numbers from generally Hispanic people. I pick up the calls and try to explain that someone is giving the wrong number out, probably quite unintentionally. It makes me feel bad because sometime once in the last year, there was a vm from an immigration attorney. (I spent a few hours calling them back until I could get to a person and let them know the situation. I really don't want someone's dreams to be dashed because of this.) Four calls today. I've got this phone number ... maybe 15 years ago. These calls for the last two-ish of them.

I didn't want this crap to muck up commenting on Steph's gorgeous hair, but there was some drama last night and I wanted to talk about it.

Remember our friends J and S? The ones that poke at me about my faith and have poked at me about teachers and other things? Well, we were at a bonfire held in honor of our friend who passed away last year. As we were getting ready to leave, someone asked why we were leaving so early. I reposnded that Joe had to work and I was teaching in the morning. S says, "No you aren't - tomorrow's Sunday." I said, "Yes, I am. I start teaching Sunday school tomorrow." J says, "That's not really teaching." I was kind of tweaked, but responded, "Sure it is - I have about 20 kids 5th grade and under, I have a curriculum a lesson plan, and activities. It's totally teaching." She says, "I've been to enough Sunday school to know that that's NOT *really* teaching." That REALLY hurt. And pissed me off. So I walked to the car with another friend to get my cigarettes (I know, I know). While we were gone, Joe apparently tried to talk to her and she said, "I'm ignoring you." Then he said something to effect of, "For someone who claims to be spiritual, you are really narrow minded." She repeated, "I'm ignoring you." Well, that was it for Joe. We left and on the way home, he texted S and told him, "Your wife's comments were hurtful and disrespectful to mine. I will no longer subject my family to your ignorant wife. I am done with guys night. Thank you for your years of unwavering friendship."

I was agog. I asked Joe if he wanted to wait until the next day to send it - he'd been drinking a fair bit and was angry, but he said he wanted to, so he did. Then, he unfriended J on FB. This afternoon, after church, I discovered that she unfriended me.

I'm sad and yet ... relieved? The friendship was broken a couple of years ago when Joe and I weren't there for them when they were going through some pretty huge things - this is the couple that placed their baby for adoption. We totally abandoned them. But in the years since, I have apologized to J more times than I can count, have tried to explain why we reacted the way that we did and that we - especially me - knew it was wrong and that we were NOT good friends when we should have been. We have tried to make it right. I don't think she has ever gotten over it - can't blame her. We did a shitty thing. But we have tried SO HARD. And maybe it could never be fixed. But I am relieved to not have to put so much effort into a friendship that she had no intention of trying to repair.

SMH.

I'm sad and yet ... relieved?

I am so sorry. That relationship just sounds broken. Mistakes made / hurt caused on all sides and it's unfortunate that it can't be truly forgiven but it just sounds broken. Very painful. I hope the break helps that wound heal a little for you, Aims.

I hope so, too. This is a couple that was in our wedding and we were in theirs. At one point, they made Emeline their beneficiary if something were to happen to them. I'll miss the friendship we had, but it's obviously time that we all moved on.

Oh, Aims. I'm sorry, but you really do deserve better than that. Good for MM for standing up to them.

I'm feeling completely invisible today with phone calls and texts to various people being ignored. TCG is studying for another job interview, and I'm bored.

I'm hot and sweaty. And not in a sexy times, fun way. Four loads of laundry (just started a fifth and the is the first of MY stuff), reorganized my room, picked up and vacuumed the house, then I looked at CJs room. He was supposed to clean it and sweep the laundry room before he left. Nothing done other than piling up his laundry for me to do. I pulled the obvious garbage out of his room. Made a pile of questionable stuff on his bed, emptied his dresser of small clothes, and made a step by step list of items for him to do. I'm up to 14 things so far. Grrrrrr.

Man Suzi. That's impressive. I have been sitting on my ass today editing my syllabus.

Nothing done other than piling up his laundry for me to do.

Hahahah. Dang, he's lucky his mom does laundry! At one point my mom was so pissed at my sister's lack of room-cleaning, she took everything out and ransomed it back to my sister bag by bag. Another time she cleaned it, but charged my sister by the hour. ...my sister is still a slob.