I am the only one who could tell the difference between her cries when she was smaller, including people like my mother. TCG is a really good dad, but if he is reading, even if he is in the room with her he can tune out most of her babbling (she doesn't really cry much). Where I hear the slightest sound she makes even when I'm fast asleep in the middle of the night.

Hasn't there been a study (or five) about how women's brains are especially wired to pick up the nuances of a baby's cries?

This woman's brain does no such thing, I'm afraid. Although I can pick up the nuances of my cats' cries, so maybe it's just a matter of exposure.

I am the only one who could tell the difference between her cries when she was smaller, including people like my mother.

Maybe it's more that the MOTHER'S brain is wired to pick up the nuances of her own baby's cries.

The only thing a baby's cry triggers in this woman's brain is "Oh dear god, no, I cannot deal with that." Which is why it's good I'm not a mother. I wouldn't be surprised if motherhood didn't make profound brain chemistry changes.

Kitten cries to trigger me differently. Maybe I'm genetically destined to be a crazy cat lady.

While lunch is cooking, I did a bit of research. There have been some small scale studies showing that women's brain activity gets interrupted when a baby cries while men's brains don't. So...who knows. I'm just glad I wasn't pulling that completely out of thin air.

Maybe it's baby anything cries.

So, we are throwing some ideas around Chez Scrappy. Are there any Buffistas in Detroit or that area?

My dad would wake up in the middle of the night if he heard a cow in distress. Which is not loud at all if you're in the house.

My sister lives near Pontiac, Scappy, so I'm in that general area once a year or so.

I'm just glad I wasn't pulling that completely out of thin air.

Oh, I didn't think you were! I read one such study a while ago, that concluded that women were less likely to be annoyed by a child's whining, and... that annoyed me. I wrote to ask if they'd included any women in the study who weren't mothers or child caregivers, but they didn't respond.

My brain is so research addled at the moment, Zen, I wasn't totally sure. One thing Buffistas have taught me (never mind Grad school) is to be able to backup your statements. Or admit you are flying by the seat of your pants.

And good point about the mothers/caregivers versus not. I'd be curious of the results. My patriarchy related cynical brain wonders if there hasn't been more research because men don't want to be -shown in a bad light. Though it would underline the patriarchy fed roles of a mother. Meh. Now I'm overthinking it.