I'm down with ltc being a tiny assassin (though, of course, I'm also 100% loyal to you), just so long as she's kind to animals.

My understanding was that it's less traumatic for you and her if she self-weans (assuming it doesn't take until Kindergarten), though IANA parent, so grain of salt, of course.

And I also feel that in-laws who make you feel judged instead of congratulated for bringing such an obviously superior human into this world can just go talk a long walk off a short pier.

Uh-oh. Maybe I should declare my loyalty to her and not you.

Declare loyalty to ltc and love for her mother for bringing such a wonderful - and deadly - being into existence.

Deadly CUTE. I have seen pictures.

If she's an assassin, I may need a card. I have a list.

sj, the only people you need to listen to w/r/t ltc's upbringing is you, TCG, and ltc. Everyone else can take a flying leap. Is she happy? Is she well-fed? (Of course!) Then your in-laws can go be judgey somewhere else.

I'm feeling really judged lately for not having weaned ltc and therefore not leaving her for more than a couple of hours at a time.

My MIL was anxious to have the boys for overnight visits but tolerated my decision to nurse them until they self-weaned. She got over it. #1 for 2 years and #2 for about 18 months or so. Also, totally what juliana said.

ps - let ltc I am totally loyal.

Have you guys seen ltc? Nobody that cute could assassinate anyone except wicked evil people.

I nursed both kids to 2.5, so you go as long as you want. But I finally decided that part of parenting was you were always being judged, or feeling judged, about something. There's always something.

I must be the only cookie-loving American that thinks raw dough is gross.

You are not. I've never understood the appeal.

ION, my dad has been in the hospital waiting for a psych evaluation and subsequent placement

in a home since Saturday. He got physically violent with my sister and mom, and had to be escorted by the police to the hospital.

Oh, Strix. I'm so sorry. Been there, sort of, and that's scary as all hell. Best wishes to you and him and all the family to get through this as quickly and easily as possible.

And our family doc, for the last 20 years, who loves my mom and dad, has access and is ON IT, texting mom.

So glad for this!

Things are going as well as can be expected; our family doctor has been a champ, and can I mention that there are such creatures as Elder Law lawyers, and everyone with aging parents

should be aware of them? Because ours has been worth every penny.

A good Elder Law attorney is worth their weight in gold. A bad one is horrible. Get references.

Dana, that sucks! This one sounded like a sure thing! I'm sorry.

And I also feel that in-laws who make you feel judged instead of congratulated for bringing such an obviously superior human into this world can just go talk a long walk off a short pier.

Specifically that.

I have used good quality drinking water in my CPAP when I was out of distilled, ie, when I take my CPAP on vacation I buy a bottle of filtered drinking water. If you wipe it clean when you finally get your distilled water, you should be fine. Vinegar is a good option for cleaning out the tank, unless your manufacturer specifies something else.

This is good to know, thanks! Supply tech instructed me to clean the reservoir with a drop of clear dishwashing liquid, which I bought. I may try vinegar too.

I am terrible about maintaining my CPAP, I don't rinse it out every day, I wait far too long between cleaning the tank, and I'm not dead yet. I don't know if my breathing would be better if I were more conscientious, but I do OK.

Also good to know. I'm very allergic to mold, though, so I don't want to risk any growing in there.

One thing to be aware of, make sure the mask fits properly. If it's too tight, it can put pressure on your teeth and give you a full-jaw toothache. Bad news. It will probably leak air, but you can get used to that if it's not too bad.

The tech showed me how to make sure it wasn't leaking or too tight. Hopefully I can manage it.

The pad on the mask will wear out relatively quickly. You can get hoses, mask pads, and the straps that hold the thing onto your head online for a lot cheaper than whatever medical supply house you're being referred to.

Insurance will pay to replace the silicone pads every two weeks, so I'mma let them buy whatever they'll buy! If there's anything I need that they don't cover, I'll definitely look online.