Sorry, smonster, I'm not trying to lecture you.
Just making an observation about the dynamic in play.
You can't open the book of my life and jump in the middle. Like woman, I'm a mystery.
Mal ,'Our Mrs. Reynolds'
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
DavidS - Jul 31, 2013 5:05:40 pm PDT #2511 of 30002
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
erikaj - Jul 31, 2013 5:35:35 pm PDT #2512 of 30002
Always Anti-fascist!
The weapon in the restaurant reminded me of something Gavin de Becker wrote about. He'd gone to Texas to testify about some public-places carrying initiative, which he opposed, but on a lunch break he asked some citizens "What do you want this for? I don't understand."
And they were all like "In case something happens...we'll be ready."
De Becker's like "Can you do the Heimlich? If someone were anaphlactic in here right now, do you think you could keep their airway open? Because that is far more likely than an armed gunman really." "Ugh..." one guy says. "I wouldn't want the responsibility for that!"
He had to conclude they were perfectly fine with the responsibility of firing lead into fellow beings at 150 MPH, though.
omnis_audis - Jul 31, 2013 5:44:23 pm PDT #2513 of 30002
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
A .45acp fires at roughly 845ft/sec. Which is roughly 576 mph. Only a wimp would fire something at 150 mph.
ducks n covers
smonster - Jul 31, 2013 5:54:43 pm PDT #2514 of 30002
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
So I express an opinion, I get eye rolls, I explain my opinion and I'm lecturing? Awesomesauce.
"Expressing my opinion is not a terrorist action."
"Tell that to Bobby Ridgeway. By the way, his testicle retrieval operation was a success."
"I still maintain he kicked himself in the balls."
billytea - Jul 31, 2013 6:00:21 pm PDT #2515 of 30002
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.
You're lecturing him. Because he asked you to! Next time he pulls that, tell him this. "Asking a question is like inviting a vampire into your home. If you don't like the outcome, it's your own fault."
omnis_audis - Jul 31, 2013 6:02:33 pm PDT #2516 of 30002
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
BT for the win!!
It's only lecturing if he was proven wrong.
Atropa - Jul 31, 2013 6:02:59 pm PDT #2517 of 30002
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
So I express an opinion, I get eye rolls, I explain my opinion and I'm lecturing? Awesomesauce.
I'm going with explaining your opinion is NOT lecturing.
billytea - Jul 31, 2013 6:10:06 pm PDT #2518 of 30002
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.
Meanwhile, yesterday we had a preschool field officer come to Ryan's childcare to assess his school readiness. Executive summary: he's ready. She was meeting us at 11:00 to discuss her findings, and apparently Ryan periodically reminded her of this while noting the current time was not yet 11:00. (Just in case she was wondering.)
While she was there, Ryan and a friend of his were playing on scooters. Another kid took his friend's scooter. Apparently Ryan went to tell her that someone else was using the scooter and she should give it back. When they refused he called in a teacher. Assertiveness! I'm proudest that he intervened, not for himself, but on someone else's behalf.
Final observation: parents turning up at childcare in the middle of the day get treated like celebrities.
§ ita § - Jul 31, 2013 6:23:27 pm PDT #2519 of 30002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
You're taking the high moral stance and trying to correct him
What's the difference between that and having an opinion and explaining it in a conversation? I mean, dude, the guy's doing research. It's not like he's unarmed or ambushed here. I see no evidence he's not a rational adult with the ability to form opinions and extrapolate from facts.
I am glad to be in an immediate family that believes that lecturing is actually correct (maybe you can call it speech-giving when my father does it, that's his thang) but dialling it down when people just wanted to toss off an offensive comment without taking any responsibility is fucking frustrating. That's when I feel like assaulting someone and roughing them up, leaving them bruised and naked at a busy intersection.
Don't do drive by hate. Because I will tail you to where you feel safe and write on your bathroom mirror make enough noise to wake the neighbours.
Shir - Jul 31, 2013 8:40:35 pm PDT #2520 of 30002
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
Except noone has been in my apartment that I know of.
Well, OK, that's just eerie.
Boy do I wish that phrase would die in a fire.
This. While I sit and watch and eat popcorn, please.
apparently Ryan periodically reminded her of this while noting the current time was not yet 11:00. (Just in case she was wondering.)
Awww, Ryan.
btw, ita. I saw a sentence you wrote in natter a week or two ago, and I was wondering if I could borrow it as a tagline. Thing is, IIRC, you wrote it when you were angry or upset about your job, and I wanted to make sure it's not gonna take you back to that angry/upset place every time you'll see it. It was "I want goals, and I want freedom, AND I WANT INFORMATION."