I still have the initial "I suck at life" response at first whenever I get any criticism.
I've actually gotten much better at looking at her feedback and thinking, hey, only 8 pages of a 32-page document had noteworthy corrections, and even some of those were subjective. I swear I've gotten better on that.
But an email with a straightforward message of man, your work last week was lousy -- that's harder to take.
And I don't think my lousy work is what also makes me suck at the rest of my life; I'm really just failing so hard at being a supportive wife with Tim's RA because I'm so busy having my own panic reaction but trying to hide it because he doesn't need to deal with my panic on top of his *own* reaction to his own chronic disease. Not to mention I keep blowing off my friends because I'm just stressed to the point of implosion. I'm pretty much failing on all fronts other than, you know, continued cell division and breathing.
failing so hard at being a supportive wife with Tim's RA because I'm so busy having my own panic reaction but trying to hide it because he doesn't need to deal with my panic on top of his *own* reaction to his own chronic disease.
No.
You are there for him, you're going to be there for him, you hold his hand (or whatever) when it gets hard and you advocate for him to get the treatment he needs. In no rational worldview are you expected to not be touched by your own worry.
I'm pretty much failing on all fronts other than, you know, continued cell division and breathing.
You're not failing at being a supportive wife, because you are trying to avoid adding to Tim's stress. If you were constantly telling him how much his medical situation sucked for *you*, that would be unsupportive. (If that's a word.)
Your friends will understand that your life is incredibly stressful right now. If they don't, then they're crappy friends.
Sending lots of support, Steph. You've had a rough year. You're not failing, even though it feels that way sometimes.
Seriously - there has been a lot of shit in you life on the last 6 months
you just figure this out
so now it is htting you
we got you back - so does Tim - so do your other friends
Tep, as I tell myself all the goddamn time, you can only do what you can do, and sometimes that isn't very much, or what you think of as enough. That is a thing that happens and not really your fault. You really do have to take your own oxygen mask first.
Lots of support, Steph. Let me know if there's anything I can do to help.
Steph, what everyone else said. Take good care of yourself.
You can only do your best...I've had whole years where I was just kind of treading water(Yes, I know that, and still kind of give myself a hard time for it, but hopefully that won't happen for you.)
It does suck that an orange bigoted fucknut like Trump gets to act like he feels good about himself, though I bet that he doesn't actually.
