When K was born my sister took me aside and said, "It's okay to be relieved when the baby goes to sleep." Heck, it's okay to be happy when the 6-year old goes to sleep...

Your in-law is being a doofus. Ignore.

sj, I will smite your in-law with great vengeance and furious anger. Mamas need breaks. (I just spent 30 minutes walking Peanut up & down the hall, begging her to fall asleep. She's asleep, finally, but on me. Not ideal, but I'll take it.)

sj, I will smite your in-law with great vengeance and furious anger. Mamas need breaks.

You have my permission.

(I just spent 30 minutes walking Peanut up & down the hall, begging her to fall asleep. She's asleep, finally, but on me. Not ideal, but I'll take it.)

Ugh. I'm sorry. I feel inadequate sometimes because I can't walk her around. So, I have to find other ways to comfort her. She's a great sleeper at night, but not a great napper. I'm trying to transition her from the bassinet to the crib, and she took two short naps in the crib today. Not long enough, and she's still cranky but it's something.

I'm trying to transition her from the bassinet to the crib, and she took two short naps in the crib today.

See, I need to do that, since Peanut's already outgrowing her bassinet, but I don't have the emotional fortitude.

I'm sorry if you ever feel inadequate, sj. You're not, and I know ltc knows she's one loved and well-mothered little girl.

THE BABY IS ALL. ALL IS BABY. SLEEP IS FOR THE WEAK AND CHILDLESS. SMILE MOMMY SMILE.

See, I need to do that, since Peanut's already outgrowing her bassinet, but I don't have the emotional fortitude.

It's hard. I feel better when she's right next to me in the bassinet at night, but she can reach the top of it with her tiny little hand. So, I don't feel she is safe in there anymore.

I'm sorry if you ever feel inadequate, sj. You're not, and I know ltc knows she's one loved and well-mothered little girl.

Thank you. I get jealous by how comforted she can be when TCG or my mother walk her around when she's upset, but then again I'm the only one who can currently feed her.

Mom left after lunch, and my in-laws just left now. I'm exhausted. I'm trying to give ltc one more nap in the crib, but I don't think it is going to take because she fell asleep on her Poppy for a while. Still, she's staying in that crib until she either falls asleep or TCG comes home from work. She's not crying, but she's not sleeping.

Sorry to say that feeling inadequate just comes with the job title. We still joke about everything in our lives that goes wrong being Mom's fault. Any time we screwed up she would assume it was because she had failed us somehow. It was amusing even as a kid.

Sorry to say that feeling inadequate just comes with the job title. We still joke about everything in our lives that goes wrong being Mom's fault. Any time we screwed up she would assume it was because she had failed us somehow. It was amusing even as a kid.

Actually, it's nice to hear it's not just me. Sometimes I feel guilt for sticking ltc with a disabled parent.

Seriously, I don't know a single good parent that doesn't second guess their decisions constantly and we all feel inadequate. My kids went to work with me when they were a week old. We will always wonder what price the kids paid for us working such insane hours all their lives. Did we make the right school decisions, and so forth.

Bottom line, I believe the only thing that matters in the end is that the child feels loved and wanted.

I had a number of friends growing up that had parents with various disabilities. I know the kids didn't think twice about it, and to the friends it was just our friend's parent. Robin's parents are deaf, Jim's dad has a wheelchair, Carol's mom has one arm. To kids it is as normal as them having a red house or a Pontiac. It just is.