I'm sure TCG would have the whiskey for me.

That's lovely, Cindy.

Yesh, I don't think it has ever occurred to me to ask an adult woman with a baby if the baby is hers, but it happens all the time.

Yesh, I don't think it has ever occurred to me to ask an adult woman with a baby if the baby is hers, but it happens all the time.

Geez. I mean, I actually do tend not to assume much about any woman-and-baby combo I see out and about unless breastfeeding is actively happening -- there are so many older parents, very young parents, sibs with age gaps, grandparents as primary caregivers, nannies, etc., that I don't presume much of anything. But, for shit's sake, I also don't assume I have any right to demand an explanation of the relationship from any of these women, and I for sure wouldn't be rude enough to express surprise if she offered one anyway. What the actual fuck?

And because it deserves a separate post, Cindy, that is utterly beautiful. And I still can't believe how many people Ginger reached out to and how active she was in so many lives while she had so much of her own to deal with.

That's beautiful, Cindy.

Yes. I think a lot of us could have written something like that; I'm very glad you actually followed through. I've always believed that the thoughts and feelings you direct toward someone, even when they're not here anymore, aren't wasted, aren't worthless; they're going out into the stars where we all began and where we all return to. Those words will reach that stardust and will be heard. I still think at and talk to my mother and brother. I find it very comforting.

Thank you, Cindy.

sj, you are already a wonderful parent. And Laura and everyone are wise.

I too wanted to have a drink and celebrate Ginger yesterday, very much. Sadly, that didn't happen. Please let me know if you would like me to set a Google Hangout thing, like we had after ita's death.

And I still can't grasp that there will never be new Ginger pixels on this board again; that there is no Ginger anymore. I don't want this to be true.

sj, I believe the best response would be a faintly puzzled slight smile and, "Why do you ask?"

Forced to justify the question, the person might be jogged into realizing it's intrusive, presumptive, and rude. You're under no obligation to answer at all, of course.

sj, I believe the best response would be a faintly puzzled slight smile and, "Why do you ask?"

I agree with Bev; that's the perfect response.

sj, ltc is so lucky to have you and TCG as parents.

Cindy, that was lovely. What Sail said.

Shir, I would love to have a Google Hangout like last time.

Whenever I consider changing my tag I hear stories like sj's and decide I still need the reminder. People! I just don't understand them sometimes, often.

Beverly, that is of course the best response. Thanks,everyone.

ltc is finally taking a nap and I'm going to pray it lasts longer than a couple minutes and try to take one too. Still wiped out from all the badness.