Death is your art. You make it with your hands day after day. That final gasp, that look of peace. And part of you is desperate to know: What's it like? Where does it lead you? And now you see, that's the secret. Not the punch you didn't throw or the kicks you didn't land. She really wanted it. Every Slayer has a death wish. Even you.

Spike ,'Conversations with Dead People'


Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Maria - Sep 10, 2015 10:50:47 am PDT #21490 of 30002
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift

All the ~ma you need, sj.


Zenkitty - Sep 10, 2015 11:29:21 am PDT #21491 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.

Tons of love ~ma and support for all those coping with aging parents.

Echoing this, loudly. It's so hard. I've been through it with my mom, and probably will again with my much-older sister, and I'm trying to help my BFF get through it with her mom now. You can develop coping strategies, but in the end, it's just mortality, and it fucking bites, for everyone.

And another ton of health~ma for ltc! But she won't need it, will she, because it's nothing to worry about.


Connie Neil - Sep 10, 2015 11:50:11 am PDT #21492 of 30002
brillig

Poor ltc. But these new releases always have a few bugs in them, a few or code updates and she'll be fine.


Fred Pete - Sep 10, 2015 11:53:47 am PDT #21493 of 30002
Ann, that's a ferret.

All ~ma to ltc and family.


NoiseDesign - Sep 10, 2015 12:02:08 pm PDT #21494 of 30002
Our wings are not tired

The last decade or so she has gently taught my step-dad to cook, do laundry, and other stuff. She still takes care of the bills, but I can see she is involving him more there too. She probably hasn't driven in 20 years, but still renews her license! Of course it isn't easy to watch her short term memory fall away and her increasing physical challenges, but it is a whole lot easier than a sudden deterioration.

This type of transition is what was happening with my parents as mom got more and more incapacitated and Dad was taking over more of the household duties, and then he got his cancer diagnosis and was gone a month later. He wasn't the one that was supposed to go first, alas, that's the way it goes sometimes.

I still miss him every day.


askye - Sep 10, 2015 12:27:25 pm PDT #21495 of 30002
Thrive to spite them

sj, lots of ~ma to ltc.


Zenkitty - Sep 10, 2015 12:39:16 pm PDT #21496 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.

I'm sorry, Drew.


SailAweigh - Sep 10, 2015 12:53:18 pm PDT #21497 of 30002
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb

Kidney~ma for ltc.

{{Drew}} and others who are missing parental units or coping with the debilitation of aging; it bites.


Hil R. - Sep 10, 2015 1:33:01 pm PDT #21498 of 30002
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l

Sorry to be all whiny here again, but if I post this on Facebook, then my mother will start worrying, and I don't need her worrying. My hip is hurting so badly. I really have no idea why -- I haven't been doing my PT exercises quite as often as I should, but that's never gotten me in this kind of pain. The only way I'm even slightly comfortable is if I lay on my side, but all I can do in that position is watch TV -- it puts my arms at the wrong angle to use the computer or read a book. I've got a ridiculously long day tomorrow -- almost certainly at least 12 hours at work, and possibly more -- and most of it will be spent with other people, and at least partially on my feet. And I can't really take any painkillers beyond Advil while I'm teaching. I'll wear my TENS, and keep a lot of Advil on hand, and use my walker, but I just really hate starting a new job like this.


Burrell - Sep 10, 2015 1:47:20 pm PDT #21499 of 30002
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!

Lots of health~ma to ltc and Hil and whoever else needs it, and healthy aging~ma to everyone's elderly parents. And special ~ma to your FiL and everyone, Steph, for the transition.

and then he got his cancer diagnosis and was gone a month later. He wasn't the one that was supposed to go first, alas, that's the way it goes sometimes.

Wow ND, I sometimes forget how similar our experiences were. Yeah, losing the caregiver parent first is such a blow, over and above the blow of losing a parent that you love and that you thought would be around for a long time.