Are you close to anyone who is also close to that cousin and who might be expecting you? If not, are you liable to catch grief for saying "My god, I'm so sorry, but I have people coming, I wish I could be there"?
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Connie Neil - Jul 30, 2015 7:02:52 pm PDT #20889 of 30002
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WindSparrow - Jul 30, 2015 7:03:28 pm PDT #20890 of 30002
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Sorry for your family's loss, Vortex. But yeah, I dunno whether I would go to the funeral if I were in your shoes.
Burrell - Jul 30, 2015 7:22:32 pm PDT #20891 of 30002
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
I think not going is okay, Vortex.
Of course I say that as I am planning on going to a funeral this weekend for a friend's father as we are close with their family. But it's almost the obverse of your situation. We'll be going out of town, but will also then spend a few days visiting my sister too.
Vortex - Jul 30, 2015 8:35:50 pm PDT #20892 of 30002
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Are you close to anyone who is also close to that cousin and who might be expecting you?
other than my crazy mother? No, no one would expect me to come, I think. My mother sent me a text that said "Gracie died. Funeral Saturday. Coming?"
Of course, we are currently in a cold war since she told me to get out of her life because I didn't think it was my job to take care of her.
Also, I suspect that my mother would not have bothered to ask if my brother were still in town.
Vortex - Jul 30, 2015 8:37:26 pm PDT #20893 of 30002
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
I think that I just feel guilty because if I hadn't had previous plans, I would have tried to go.
Laura - Jul 31, 2015 4:34:45 am PDT #20894 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.
If you are not close to the cousin I would let it go. It is not expected that people other than immediate family would travel for a funeral.
Weekend for funerals. A parent of friends of my youth has her funeral this weekend. We were very close in my teens and this parent is an integral part of my memories of youth in Otter Lake. Since I am here for the summer I absolutely will go to the viewing and funeral and big gathering after. If she had passed in the winter and I was in Florida I wouldn't consider traveling, and know the family would not expect me to.
sj - Jul 31, 2015 4:43:03 am PDT #20895 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Vortex, you really shouldn't feel obligated to go. A sympathy card should be sufficient.
My brother-in-law is coming over in 2 hours to finish setting up the crib he adapted for ltc, and then my in-laws are all coming over for dinner tonight. I should really be showered and finish cleaning up the living room. Has anyone seen my spoons?
Laura - Jul 31, 2015 5:15:23 am PDT #20896 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.
Shoves spoons through intertubes. I hope you are able to effectively alternate resting and preparing. Don't push yourself too hard.
meara - Jul 31, 2015 6:08:06 am PDT #20897 of 30002
In that case, don't go, avoid your mother. Where has your brother relocated to?
It's morning. I don't want to deal with half my work. Some of it is fine. Much of it is head-banging-on-the-desk.
brenda m - Jul 31, 2015 6:34:33 am PDT #20898 of 30002
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
If you have to deal with your in-laws tonight, you should definitely take it as easy as possible today.