Imma stop wishing things, it only made it worse. Sheesh, sj.

Thanks guys. Mom and I both tried to pretend our sparkling water at lunch was alcohol. The prescription is being transferred. We're at the laundromat running the load that was I the wash. Sears is coming tomorrow morning for our thankfully still under warranty washer. But just to prove that I probably did fall through a wormhole today, I just received a birthday card from my mother in law who hasn't spoken to me in nearly 3 years. I think maybe she wants to be able to see her granddaughter after she's born.

Of course she does. Grandchildren trump everything. I had a friend whose dad was Jewish and her mom was not. When they married in the early 60s, his entire family cut him off. He was dead to them. Eight years later, when they had my friend, suddenly the entire extended family accepted the marriage.

Yeah I'm not sure how to just pretend she didn't say horrible things about me and my family. I guess I'll figure it out.

Mom is going to the market for me while I rest.

From experience, sj, don't try to rehash, make excuses for, or explain anything. If TCG is okay with his mom being in your family circle, start from zero, today, and go all new.

Believe me, it's hard at first, but it can be done. In our case it worked, we all became close, the kids had amazing grandparents. Good luck.

This situation might prove to be slightly more difficult, but we'll do what we can.

Well, whatever happens, you have the best group of people in the world to help you out with the details.

sj I don't have any advice about your MIL other than to say we're here for you.

So I had the best day at work today so far. No ear ache and except for having to completely reset an area and get behind in another I did okay. The day went by really fast and it was only the last 30 minutes I was ready to go home.

Partly it's the heat. I can feel my feet and legs swelling from the peripheral edema I get at times. The way to deal with it is don't walk or stand too much and don't sit down too much. When you do sit keep your feet elevated.

I also need to cut back on the salty foods and drink more water. I'm going to try and get some of those freezeable fake ice cubes. The water tastes bad so I drink bottled (I buy gallons and then use a water bottle) but I always forget to put the water back in the fridge. I'm hoping having the freezeable ice cubes will help keep the wawter cold which will make me want to drink more.

askye, I caved and bought one of those water bottles with the built-in filter (Britta, about $15 at Target) when I was visiting family in Tulare (California's central valley) which is locally FAMOUS for how gross its water is. The thing is near-miraculous. It made Tulare water not just acceptable, but tasty. I always bring it along for fairs or whatnot where I can't guarantee the quality of the water I'll have access to and it works great. Won't help for coldness, but still highly recommended.